Sex with someon who doesn't like you?

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Okay, about four months ago I met this guy at work who we will call Kyle for the sake of the story. Kyle was the guy who both trained and "let me go." During my short time working there I developed a small crush on him. Knowing that he went to my friend Dawn's school I started making the occasional visit to go see her using it as an excuse to talk to him and say hi. things seemed pretty casual to me. Any ways, he soon found out I had a crush on him and got another girl named Alex to "let me down easy." This was odd to me since I had no intentions of dating him. So I sent him a message saying my feelings weren't hurt and I asked to be his friend. he said okay. So in about three months my crush died down, we RARELY talked and I sent him a total of two messages over facebook and commented on a few pictures. While this was happening Alex, who is also my bff's friend,and I and stopped being friends (She apparently HATES me). So Alex and Kyle started hanging out a lot (just as friends I can assure you, but that's another story) and got into a b**ch fight. Now after three months this guy invites me to his place and starts saying things like "Ignore what I asked her to tell you, I was busy with school and graduation." and "I really want to get to know you better." I knew there was a chance I was being used to get back at Alex but I went along with it anyways and we ended up fooling around. Now within this 3 month period before I went to his house I found out from Dawn that he was talking about me behind my back calling me "desperate", "creepy" and "pathetic". He turns out to be a douche. Now, the only thing is he doesn't know that I know what he thinks of me and that he is probably only using me for sex. I also made up my mind 2 months ago that if all I got was sex from him I would be fine with that. Also, I don't go over to his place every time he asks me too, I only go when I want to. In a way I'm taking advantage of him trying to take advantage of me. Is this something normal to do? Have any of you been in a similar situation? Is it wrong to be okay with JUST sex in this situation? I mean the people he talks about me too, I don't even know them and will probably never meet them. So, Would you have sex with someone who doesn't like you? Keep in mind I don't like him that much either, though I still find him highly attractive.

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  • queenZEBRA
    13 years ago

    What the hells wrong with u

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  • flordelotus
    14 years ago

    I've been through a similar (perhaps not so extreme) situation many years ago, and I can tell you that you clearly have a low self esteem issue. No one who truly like themselves would ever feel atracted to someone who said such horrible things about them.

    The point is, it IS normal, but it is not healthy =) you are in a humilliating position.

    And I think I agree with Kyle, you do sound desperate and a little bit creepy.

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  • Sometimeswise
    7 years ago

    When I read that you commented on a bunch of his Facebook posts I got my first clue that you are patheticly obsessed with this asshole. You are trying to convince yourself that you are using him but lets get real: he owns you
    You must have no sense of self worth, be honest with yourself and move on.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    sounds like you just dont give a fuck and want someone to fuck so keep him as your hoe

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  • Nightmare-Rex
    12 years ago

    its not normal I couldent have sex with a whore because she was a bitch and wouldent go at my pace, I have had a better time jacking off. I am only ale to to that to girls who are nice to me.

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  • ShellyRenee
    13 years ago

    Sorry chick but you are in no way using him at all...he's disrespecting you, cutting you down as a person and then having sex with you. YOU LOSE IN THIS SITUATION! Why have sex with someone who clearly doesn't like you? You're embarrassing yourself! It's not like a fuck buddy at all because at least fuck buddies like each other in some way. So no this is not normal at all and its quite unhealthy. You give women a bad image..

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  • anya07
    13 years ago

    have sex with her then when she sleeps write a message something like this <I just needed you for sex.Dont try to find me>leave ,never come back and when you see her one day ignore so that there was nothing between you.You will get what you want and at the same time will know that its you who used her.lolllllll

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  • BarNGrill
    13 years ago

    Remember, It's All About You and your satisfaction. Who cares about him. Fuck his brains out and own him.

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  • Comm0nSense
    13 years ago

    HAHA ok I don't mean to be blunt but girls like you are the reason why we look down on you as a piece of meat.

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  • Bling24
    13 years ago

    Even though you say you're "using" him, it sounds more like he's still using you. You shouldn't let him treat you like that behind your back, I think you should try to find someone you actually like and that isn't an asshole

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  • abbypi28476
    14 years ago

    He is just stupid. Dont it's really dumb to do that

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  • christine
    14 years ago

    If you are both in it for the same reason then it is fine but make sure you are not settling for a type of relationship that you don't want.

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  • thinktank
    14 years ago

    nothing's wrong if you both what yr it for, it's called having a fuck buddy.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    You know this is an unhealthy relationship. You are getting sex out of it. Getting to spy on him. And a bit of one-up-manship in knowing what the back stabbing & abusive prick is up to, w/o him knowing. Perhaps you enjoy knowing that during sex you are actually both hypocrites.

    But whatever shallow power or reasons for this on your part; he has the upper hand because he is a genuine rat.

    You have to decide whether to become a sleaze, like him, or a person you can respect. Because I think you are giving away your self respect here. And it may be harder to get back than you think.

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  • chuck_rules_fosho
    14 years ago

    Ah, the joys of high school. Kyle is like a total jerk.

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  • Galaxy500
    14 years ago

    why would you have sex with someone who disrespects you and is using you for sex? Because you do come around - period - you are being used, anyway you slice it. Grow some self confidence and put him on your shit list.

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  • tucker1
    14 years ago

    Eh, no one is being honest in this situation, but you are obviously both getting what you want. So here is my advice, Just have a talk with him and both of you can agree that you just like banging each other with no strings attached. That way you can get what you want with no misunderstandings.

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  • Bubear50
    14 years ago

    It amazes me how much people live for this type of pointless drama. And how they consider superficial friendships to be all that.

    Heres a news flash "GROW THE FUCK UP!!!!!"

    I feel better

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      14 years ago

      I don't live for this kind of drama. I've NEVER been involved in this kind of thing before. EVER! Which is why I'm asking if it's normal to have sex with someone who you know doesn't like you. Also, Me and Dawn, friends for 10 years, NOTHING superficial about our friendship.

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