Sex is kinda difficult

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So I've been going out with my current girlfriend for about 2 months. She is very attractive (if I do say so myself) and also very horny. We have had sex several times. However in the first month of our relationship I had serious problems getting it up.

The second month has been much better. However, I have a recurring problem that doesn't seem to be associated with anxiety (after having sex with her about 12 times I no longer have any performance anxiety). I just can't really maintain an erection without stimulation long enough for easy penetration. Which makes sex kind of awkward. I feel like maybe this is somewhat normal and I might just suck at putting it in. But for example, I rarely, if ever, get a full hard on without some kind of stimulation, ie: she jacking me off or dry f**king or something like that.

Is this normal? It makes sex a lot less spontanteous and free than i want it to be. i wish i could just get it up and have it stay up until she's ready to go, but instead my boner is a total enigma haha

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  • mlbryan44
    10 years ago

    If you get sucked off, does that help?

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  • TwoThumbs
    10 years ago

    ugh...maybe stop jerking off. Sounds like your junk has gotten used to the shalacking.

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    Think about sucking my beautiful cock!

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  • Ramit10
    12 years ago

    The problem is you arent horny enough. You have to think of something that really turns you on and think of that and say stuff in your head to get you really going

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  • darren3
    12 years ago

    Does this problem occur in all sexual positions or possibly just when she is on top riding you? The "cowgirl" position is notorious for deflating the cock in some guys. Or your gay.

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  • nohiddenpath
    13 years ago

    This is normal. Try a cock-ring. They are designed to keep you harder longer. Even a penis pump might be a good idea. All the pump does is get blood from your scrotum to your penis. Nothin to be ashamed of if you try using one. Experiment with fetishes. You might be able to be turned on more if all your passions and desires came out uninhibited. This depends on the relationship you have w/ your partner. My bra fetish gets me hard everytime.

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  • tinaunger
    13 years ago

    Yes my husband has the same problem sometime. He says he just has to concentrate on not thinking about it and he says trying to be in the moment helps. Also sometimes watching porn while he gets in the mood helps for a long errection

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    • mlbryan44
      10 years ago

      Your hubby is likely gay.

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