Sex compatibility

Obviously you take a test drive.

Have sex with them. Did you enjoy it? Yes? Then you’re sexually compatible

1) Ask your partner if he or she would like to share his or her fantasies with you, in exchange for you telling him or her yours. This requires courage, bravery and trust from both of you.

2) Try to keep an open mind and don't run a mile after he or she tells you. Instead, try to indulge his or her fantasies.

3) If he or she doesn't want to indulge your fantasies or you are weirded out by what he or she wants, then you are not sexually compatible. If you both get turned on by the thought of what each of you enjoy, then you are sexually compatible.

Job done.

If you do ever experience a "magical feeling" which makes you believe you're with The One, don't assume that's a message direct from God or the cosmos or fate or whatever.

A tiny minority of couples have that feeling the moment they meet and they're so perfectly compatible in every way that they manage to keep the feeling alive for years of even many decades, blithely sailing through all the shit that life throws at them without any effort whatsoever.

Maybe you'll be lucky, but for the vast majority of us, that feeling is down to nothing more than hormones and a mix of psychological factors that just happen to be right when you meet a particular person at a particular time and place in your life. When the feeling fades, keeping the relationship going will require commitment, communication skills, a willingness to compromise, an ability to forgive and a fair amount of work.

I'm highly sceptical about the existence of The One. The fact is that there are loads of people out there who you could be very happy with (at least most of the time) if you and they are both emotionally mature, secure about your own value, and willing to put in some effort to make it work.

As far as sexual compatibility is concerned, that requires both people to have similar values, similar needs, similar preferences and similar expectations. You also obviously need to find each other physically attractive, and there has been research which suggests that personal scents (not the synthetic perfumes one chooses to wear, but the scent of the body itself) are an important subconscious factor when it comes to sexual attraction.

One strange thing is that you should never assume that if the experience is meh the first time you have sex with someone who you truly believed pushed all your buttons, then that failure must mean you're not sexually compatible. It might be true, but it's often the case that first-time sex with someone you're already heavily invested in can be pretty crap due to tensions and fears and insecurity. If a couple are well-matched in every situation when they're not in bed and they want the relationship to work, it's usually possible for them to figure out how to make the sexual aspect of the relationship much better.

You have sex with that person and see if the same stuff gets you both off.

What are you looking for?
A sex partner, one of many.
Or are you worried you might marry the wrong person?
Most of us do test drives.
But understand this, very clearly.
There are no guarantees.
Folks have gotten married, as virgins, then divorced 30 years later.
Compatability in a relationship is about a lot more then sex.
Communication is key.
The word NO! Should never be said in the bedroom.
Seek first to please your partner.
As long as no pain is involved.
If you are uncomfortable, say.
I'd rather not, or go really slow.
Honestly though, There is no real way.
Some folks have great sex, but can't stand each other for more then a couple days.
Sorry if I'm giving more questions then answers.

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