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Is it normal that I get pissed off when women try to tell men what we need to do (i.e., how to dress, how to or whether to wear makeup, how to carry ourselves in public, what to say or not to say, etc.) for them to want to fuck us, like getting women to want to fuck us is ever an issue? Get over yourselves, girls.
I get upset when people tell me my chronic pain, and irritable bowel syndrome are all in my head.
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Is it normal that I get pissed off when doctors try to tell IBS patients what they need to do(i.e., how to eat, how to or whether to use laxatives, how to carry our poop in our bowels, what to poop on or not to poop on, etc.) for them to want to cure us like getting doctors to want to cure us is ever an issue? Get over yourselves, proctologists.
I feel my autonomy has been insidiously violated by generational indoctrination.
I'm going stuff myself with cake.
Thanks, I try to be friendly and say logical argument but it seems like as if you can only win against a third-wave feminist when you act the same way as her until she realise how stupid the things she said were
It's like fighting fire with fire
This isn't analogous to what she was saying. Her arguments are based in the presence of a structural inequity between men and women. So to act as though a woman treating a man a certain way bears the same consequence as a man treating a woman that way creates a false equivalence within what her argument is predicated on.
You could 'win' by creating arguments against there being a structural imbalance or the conclusions she drew from it, I personally completely disagree with her.
But this type of post doesn't, win anything, or further dialogue, and really cheapens the efforts us who would like there to be more mutual empathy and understanding
The post is the basis of a Creative Commons book project, which means I won't make any money from it and it won't be published by anyone but me, but it will be shared around the internet and hopefully be used as a teaching tool for some people, a point of self discovery for some, and a point of ridicule for others. I'm comfortable with all of that.
Either way, this whole thing is about starting a conversation and getting people thinking and engaging about these issues, which I think the post did, but I also wanted to highlight how ineffective the way we're currently communicating through internet is if everyone's sure they're correct and that everything they're saying is correct.
I don't disagree with any of the things I said on that post, those are my personal beliefs and if I had everything I've ever read and transcripts of every conversation I've ever had that fed what I think I know, I could site my sources, but at the this stage in humanity, we just don't have that, nor do I think we need it. Sometimes it's important to be able to believe someone's not an idiot just because we don't understand what they're saying and obviously, I have to work on that, too.
That's the point. We ALL need to change in some way and be open to learning about people that aren't like us. Being part of a dominant group might give one less impetus or incentive to do that, but if you DO believe everyone is equal, is it not worth making an effort?
I'm white, for instance, but I had to actively work and study and have conversations with people who weren't white about race and culture and politics to understand white privilege. It's real and to an extent, we can't change it in an immediate way, but we can make a conscious effort to be responsible for own actions and if more people could do that in an intentional way, we would be in better shape as a society.
I don't want to monopolize anyone's time any further, but I want to thank everyone who lent their time and energy to this project and I also want to apologize for not being able to tell you all what you were entering into. It just wouldn't have worked if I had done it any other way.
Consent is important and I don't want to violate anyone else's because I know how that feels and it's not a good feeling. It happened to me before I even knew that it was, it ruined my life for a long time, and I'm still picking up the pieces.
I'll leave the post up for a day or two, in case anyone wants to look at if for what it is, but I'm won't reply to anything further and my account here will be deleted by the end of the week.
I don't date demanding girls. If they are, it means they're looking for something I don't naturally have. Soon enough they'll leave me for someone else who has those traits while I was constantly struggling to achieve them, rather than enjoying the relationship. A complete waste of time. I did it once, I'll never do it again. Women who want me with no further requirements are always better from my experience. I'm a lot more comfortable with them and they enjoy my company a lot more. I am not easy to manipulate with sex and I feel a lot better and safer. I'd always pick one regular girl who's into me rather than one model who wants me to do whatever she says. There are always a few women who keep giving me signals so I'll definitely pick one when I need a relationship.
i think if your mate is telling you what turns them on then i dont really see a problem with that... but if shes just a lady friend and you arent together then id tell her to rack off
I wish I knew more about all of that stuff. It's so overwhelming. It's crazy that you're in Galveston, and I was in Kingwood. Good God, we could have had a beer, or smoked some herb together.
I'm supposed to move to Delaware soon. I guess I'm moving from the second largest state in the union to the second smallest.
I see this is just the other post flip flopped, but I agree with both, regardless of gender. It's normal to get angry when people try to control you. I don't see how the other post is third wave at all.
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Men have always been easy to manipulate with sex. Sex is the power card that women hold. I say be a sex positive feminist. Join other feminists for Slut Walks in your area, and support the Free The Nipple movement.