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I have crush after crush after crush after crush. They never end! I usually don't have crushes when I have a boyfriend, but as soon as I break up with a boyfriend, I have another crush immediately. They're pretty intense crushes, too. Bad?
By always having a crush, it's like being addicted to the rush of thinking someone is more amazing than they actually are because a crush is usually more of a fantasy than a reality.
Adults don't normally experience intense nor continual crushes. I think the reason teenagers are more susceptible; they are sometimes very naive and have more difficulties telling the difference between fantasy and reality because of raging hormones and inexperience.
I also think MTNW could be correct that it could also be a sign that you have an underlying problem with being alone.
If you post a question on IIN.com, expect to be judged by people because that's sort of what this site is about - and it is anonymous. Part of maturity is being able to receive constructive criticism and not get all worked up about it.
u could never love sum1 so much that ur incapable of loving sum1 else,it sucks,i no,thats all
I'm the same way. I'm a 41 year old married man, and there is almost always someone (or more usually, several women) I have a crush on. My wife knows about this, and isn't threatened because she knows when it comes right down to it, I wouldn't actually do anything about it (though I came close this past summer when my marriage was not doing very well).
They usually burn bright and then fizzle out pretty quickly, except for where I don't know the person, like movie stars or my grade 13 english teacher who I haven't seen in 23 years.
I'm not really THAT worked up. I just think that many times people see behaviors that women do and automatically label them pathological, and that's wrong. It's normal for me to call people out sexist behavior.
Being alone? Though I am young, there have literally been years where I have been alone. I am not afraid to be alone, so that option simply doesn't make sense.
Yes, I know that people will judge me on INN.com. Please don't treat me like I'm stupid, because I'm not stupid. I live in New York City, so I know what it's like to deal with strangers. And yes, by using this website I expect that sometimes people will make wrong judgements of me, but that doesn't mean that I can't feel a little emotion. So please don't patronize me over a little bit of emotion.
OK, so, neither or you have elaborated your thoughts. So far, I can agree that I am young and a bit immature. However, the whole "you're so fearful" thing isn't really convincing me.
Sometimes men think they know a lot about women, too. You seem like a man. Maybe I'm just bored? Maybe I've already been alone for so long that I'm honestly very tired of being alone. You made a snap judgement by assuming "i'm not ok being alone."
maybe you are bored. when you said
"I have crush after crush after crush after crush" and then
"but as soon as I break up with a boyfriend, I have another crush immediately."
i took that to mean that you don't spend any time without a boyfriend or without a crush. i didn't intend on being judgemental.
it sounds like you "love" being in "love"
depending on your age, it can be either normal or not. younger people think they feel more deeply than adults, but it's usually that they don't have the skills to deal with their feelings.
you are one of those who constantly has a boyfriend or is on the lookout for one. too bad you can't be ok to be alone, once in a while.