Seperation anxiety re: girlfriend

I have a girlfriend and everytime I cant reach her on the phone or I call and shes gone or we are not together or shes with somebody else doing something I get tremendous anxiety. I used to be able to goto germany, etc for three months at a time and not worry about my girlfriends. When I think of having to spend a night alone or without her I get very scared of the night and almost wonder how I will be able to cope with the anxiety and silence of it. I am not a obsessed type, I recently went through a very hard divorce and spent considerable time in a....work environment...that was both emotionally difficult and dangerous...and illegal. After the divorce I went through a period of going from girl to girl...mostly just to cope with the sudden trauma of my last relationship. We had just bought a house and started our lives really. My current girlfriend who I love very much has never cheated on me that i know of and she seems very capable of making good decisions but she has made some wrong ones in her past and who hasent....I dont fault her for those. She lets alcohol get away from her and likes it a bit too much at times. I know this is rambling but at least its serious and thats different than alot of posts on here so give me a second and your opinion. No dumb stuff...and keep in mind I am relatively healthy minded I think. Or I was. I was even a chemical addictions therapist and cognitive behavioral therapist here in Colorado at one point. I dont understand the seperation anxiety I have with her. What do you think it is from?

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  • HurrrDurrr

    Truth is women who drink to the point of acute intoxication regularly are almost always cheaters. They'll blame it on the alcohol. It's not actually about the alcohol but the personality type that is willing to engage in that level of alcohol consumption. It's why I will never date one that drinks to the point of being very drunk without me. Seen it happen too many times with my friends. My aunt has a friend who has the exact same problem. Last time I was over at her house at the same time as her she was drunk. Her husband was there yet she was still all over me. They are separated now and I don't blame him one bit. You weren't specific enough to know if that applies to her, but if it does I would definitely be uncomfortable. Statistical probability says she's cheated and will continue to cheat on you. Anyways best of luck to you.

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  • stillmatic

    THAT WAS FUNNY, I DON'T THINK THE LAST COMMENT WAS JOKING HE REALLY DID SLEEP WITH YOUR GIRL AND I FILMED IT ON MY CAMERA PHONE... nah im kidding i'm joking too, if you love her then tell her!

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  • sorry about that last comment joking

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  • I was sleeping with her while you were in germany with youre gay lover so get over it and try to cope with the bigger gap i have created sorry but u shouldnt leave a hot piece of ass layin around a real man will come and scoop her up and do it like a real man

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  • yoyoyo65

    Then she's the one, until i whip out my 12 inch

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  • CT_BABY_2007

    TO BE REAL WIT U

    I THINK U HAVE SOME STRONG FEELINGS FOR HER AND U DON'T KNOW HOW TO TELL HER BUT IF U DOING THAT U R GOING TO HAV A LOT OF STRESS
    SO I THINK ALL U CAN DO IS TAKE IT A DAY AT A TIME

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  • beatles_steffi

    it seems you have trust and attachment issues prob from divorce... i suggest controlling them or getting help from a professional. Eventually she will assume you are extremely possessive, and hide things from you... not important things... just reasons to be alone and away from you.

    i had a boyfriend similar to you... i would be working, and exactly the second i was supposed to get out he would call... i'm an adult....i dont need to be kept on his schedule... so i would say i'll be out in 20... and just have a drink or two then go home. i've never cheated on any boyfriend ever... and the things i had to hide from him were trivial.... so i couldnt figure it out.... so i left.

    it's good to be apart in a relationship or it wont work... you are trying too hard, and will scare her away. seriously...take it from a girl that's had a guy that behaves like you.

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  • Maybe you are more in love with her than any girl before. That is all I can think of

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