Separated should i go back to him.

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I separated this week just because I had feelings for someone else and did not give and still don't feel like I want to make it work with my husband
He buys me nice things really anything I want.
I have a spa day every month, he's very quiet and we do fight but another and major problem for me is that he is not into sex as much as I am
He is also older than me not much 5 years.
He is the best daddy to our son, very very sweet.
He begged me to come back home but I cannot ever tell him about the other guy. I am so confused I liked my life but I got married way to young and I felt like I needed to explore more.
Thoughts?

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Based on 15 votes (8 yes)
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  • Olddelusionalsailor
    7 years ago

    Your husband is a complete douchebag, and you are a manipulative whore.

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    • Curiousme1981
      7 years ago

      How's so?? And I am not a whore have not slept with anyone else.

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    It seems you like your husband, but do you love him and will this one exploration outside marriage be enough?

    If you don't tell him about the other bloke it's going to be a HUGE secret between you for ever.

    Most couples have different sexual needs at different times and learn to adjust to each other, but if not enough sex is a bottom line issue for you then it'd be better to separate now if you can't talk about it as a couple. Have you even tried?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Ellenna he cheated for a short time 2 years ago...it's hard to forget but I've forgiven him
      He's never been a sexual person and I guess I never was as well until I had our son.
      I've become an animal nothing satisfies me anymore...he kinda knows this so be buys me stuff. I work too I'm not that kinda of chick.
      He can't keep up with me

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      • Ellenna
        7 years ago

        Hmmm, he must've been a sexual person with the woman he cheated with. Maybe the two of you just aren't compatible sexually but do have other good things going for you, so I guess you have to balance out your priorities and of course, put the welfare of your little boy FIRST.

        I ask again: have you tried talking to him about your feelings and sexual needs? The fact that you say he "kinda knows" makes me think it hasn't been discussed at all. The solution could be as simple as spicing up your sex life with him and him being more sexual and you a bit less.

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        • Curiousme1981
          7 years ago

          I did speak with him he brushed it off.
          I will try again in fact I am going to call him now.

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          • Ellenna
            7 years ago

            Maybe you need to lay it on the line that if he's not prepared to take your feelings seriously there's no future in a marriage where there's no respect

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