Self resposibility

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I think when people do something foolish/messed up/nasty then it's no one's fault but their own. I wanna slap people when they're 40+ years old and they still blame their parents or bullies from high school for their poor choices.

My belief is they can't control anyone else but they can control themselves. I also believe people who agree and join the pity party are lying to make the person feel better when that person should just accept responsibility and work on changing their situation.

That mindset is counter productive as it enforces the thought in peoples' heads that they have no control over their lives and everyone else does. To take responsibility of one's life and choices is not to take blame but to take control of one's life.

How do you feel about that?

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    You're entitled to your opinion. I can choose to agree or disagree with you, but I'm still powerless over your emotions, ideas, beliefs and opinions. Some might argue with me, and state that I could choose to attempt a persuasive argument one way or another, but it's also your right choose how you react to that as well. There is a certain freedom that comes from respect and understanding that others have a right to set boundaries with one.

    If I can respect a boundary that someone has chosen to set with me then I can recognize that I have the right to set boundaries with others and expect said boundaries to be recognized. If I can learn to be accountable then I can learn expect and appreciate accountability in others. Life is a two way street.

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  • [Old Memory]
    7 years ago

    The past is very powerful. It is not easy to overcome painful memories.

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  • Facetiousless
    7 years ago

    "If that is what you think, that is what you think."

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  • Tobyrh
    7 years ago

    Totally agree. People shouldn't feed someone's self pity it'll only make stuff worse.

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  • _Mehhhh_
    7 years ago

    Amen.

    Forget 40+ though, I can't even let this attitude slide with young people. I have to wonder with some people, how many times it's going to take them being let down by relying on others before they'll finally learn.

    The only person responsible for you is yourself. It's fine to ask for help and get that help to get back on your feet, but don't just sit there on your arse waiting for all your problems to fix themselves, because they won't.

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  • AbhishekT1wari
    7 years ago

    You are correct. If you really want to "slap" them, you are being too angry.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      You seem to have knack for taking things too literally. Asperger syndrome? Don't get offended. I'm only asking.

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