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a friend of mine went missing about a month ago. his parents are deeply grieving. during the time that he has been missing, ive been involved with this girl.
she let me drive her car home for her. it was night, it was just me in the car, i merged, and another car hit me at high speed and her car was completely and utterly totalled (every window broken, none of the doors would open). i walked away without a scratch. a seriously near death experience. the car was unregistered and uninsured, and the other people were from asia on business driving a rental car. they left the country shortly after, and arent responding to calls from the insurance.

i have no money to pay for the accident, and she has me under her thumb for it. the car is sitting in a towing yard costing $55 a day, and the accident was months ago. i hadn't told my parents about the accident out of fear, until: i took her shopping a week ago, and she left some shopping bags in the trunk of my car. i left to go on a trip for the weekend, and when i came back, she and her friend burst into my house, she told my mom, grabbed my car keys and was screaming about how her clothes were in my trunk.
she opened the trunk, tore through the bags, and there were small baggies of coke under all the clothes she had bought. i had been driving around with it in the car without knowing it.

this girl lives in a house as a maid for a very important family in the community. because she's beautiful and i'm wierdly in love with her, i made up some white lies about myself to seem better than i am.

the family she lives with investigated me for some reason, found that these stories werent true, and started telling all their friends (including the girl) that i'm a "pathological liar". my parents have the same friends as this family.

back to my missing friend. it was assumed he had jumped off a bridge, but no body was ever recovered. his parents have hired a private investigator, who wants to "talk to me" about him.
i heard from the girl tonight that the reason they have hired is because his parents (also friends with the family she lives with) have been told i'm a "pathological liar" and suspect me in his disappearance even though ive helped them in every way i can.

this kid had serious mental issues, no friends and sat around and smoked weed all day. i hung out with him because i felt sorry for him. apparently, besides his parents, i was the last person to see him before he disappeared.

all of this is too much. i feel suicidal sometimes, and my anxiety is really bad. right after the car accident, i started snorting oxycontin, then moved on to smoking it off of tinfoil. i quit cold turkey without telling anyone. i have been without it a week now.

im on vacation in a city where it is very easy to buy heroin. i'm tempted to try it, because i hurt so much. im crying as i write this.
i really don't know what to do. nobody can help me, or so it seems.

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  • Mel
    13 years ago

    Getting into drugs...will make the cops look at you 10x more. Your validity will be GONE. Id suggest you get some help & therapy. You need to cut ALL ties with the girl, & asap.

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  • UsernameNotAvailable
    12 years ago

    Wow, you have one hell of a life. Sounds like something out of a movie.

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  • teebaby
    13 years ago

    Why would you go out of town.. that just makes it seem like you have somthing to do with it. but you don't have anything to do with it so just tell them the truth. Don't turn to drugs for your problems, cause it just makes the whole situation worse. Trust me.
    i don't know how it is to be in that kinda situation, but that really sucks, but tough it out. :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    This all just sounds ridiculous. Ditch the bitch involved with the drugs. That person is just...not good for you or the situation. I dont even know if this is still a problem for you but if it is then just be truthful. If you are infact innocent and have been dragged into a shitty situation then it will settle itself sooner or later.

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  • cherio
    13 years ago

    If im understanding this correctly u drove the girls car home for her and had an accident. It was her car that was unregistered and uninsured. First off let my say that it was her responsibility to have the car insured and registered therefore she should be paying for atleast half of all expenses. Because if she would have had insurance the expense would only of been a deductible and probably not a quarter of what the expenses are now. Also if you had nothing to do with your friends disappearance then you have nothing to worry about. Dont mess up your life by using drugs. Take it one day at a time and remember that it always gets worse before it gets better and that the good lord never puts more on you than you can handle. Good luck hope everything works out.

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago

      That was what I was going to say. Her car. Her responsibility to ensure. You were just doing her a favour. Thats all.

      2nd, talk with the investigator. You may have information that is useful without knowing it.

      3rd where the hell did the cocaine come from if it is not yours? Get that cleared up because it looks like you are dealing.

      4th talk to your parents, tell the whole truth. Get some allies, including legal advice.

      5th stop being a putz. Tell this girl o piss off. She's screwing you around & you take her shopping and kinda like her. Stand up for yourself.

      6th why do heroine. It is self destructive, and makes you look like the very kind of druggie/sketchy person you say others are falsely bad mouthing you to be.

      Finally, I hope you are being honest and aren't up to shit yourself. Again stand up for yourself. And for your family too, if all this crap is putting a strain on their marriage

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      • [Old Memory]
        13 years ago

        *insure, not ensure.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    13 years ago

    thank you guys so much. just an update.
    the family the girl lives with has continued to spread their version of events around, and news has been travelling quickly enough that one of my parents friends called my parents on our vacation to repeat what she was told about me.

    my mother and father are very disturbed by the whole thing, disturbed enough that they have spent long amounts of time on the phone today with their marriage councilour.

    i confronted the girl about a lot of this and she says she will be speaking to the woman she lives with who is saying all of this. im waiting and really nervous about the whole thing, considering my parents friend has called several times today, each time making everything worse.

    the private investigator also called today and i told him what i could. he was not at all as bad as i thought he would be, and not unpleasant.

    it also comes to my attention today from a text from the girl that the woman she lives with who is spreading all the gossip's son was involved in a really cruel bullying incident towards a friend of mine in high school.
    this family is quite obviously severely disfunctional (though, laughably, not quite as disfunctional as mine! haha) and i want to get as far away as possible from them, but with the responsibilities with the car to the girl and the fact that we have a lot of friends in common that she and the family she lives with can poison against me, i worry about the consequences of just packing up and leaving.

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  • penpal21
    13 years ago

    Go to the local emergency room, tell them all of this and how you're having thoughts of harming yourself and doing drugs. They will get you situated with crisis intervention who can help you straighten out your mind and pick up the pieces. Help is there for you if you ask for it.

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  • mysti446
    13 years ago

    Drugs is never the solution.

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  • mogeta
    13 years ago

    don't get yourself into drugs. it'll make things worse. I'm sorry on what you have been facing.

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  • onlymeagain
    13 years ago

    OMG! I have no idea at all what to even say to you about your situation. Wow. I truly wish you the best and I hope that your friend is found. Hang in there.

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  • gleekfreak92
    13 years ago

    Don't sweat it. If you had nothing to do with the kids disappearance, than go back. Don't run away from it. Life doesn't give you anything that you can't handle. Don't buy Heroin. You got this far, don't take a step back. Talk to your family before anyone else does. Your making yourself look guilty by leaving. Go home. Be patient. in 5 years, this will be a memory.

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