Scared of what he might think

No disrespect to the other commenters, but I totally disagree. He will not overlook it because he loves you.

He is a man, you will be a NAKED WOMAN. He will barely even notice a birthmark because you will be a NAKED WOMAN! We men are simple creatures. We don't expect perfection, we just like naked!

It's not so bad, take a chance and let him see you and he will think nothing of it. Any man who loves a woman enough will look beyond any imperfection and still see the most beautiful woman.

You have to let him see it !!!! you can not go your entire life hiding it from him,,,you will go crazy !!!! if he has a problem with it it is better to find out now rather than later ... Just do it !!!!!

I just want to clarify what I said above about him not overlooking it because he loves you. A man could not only not love you, but actually hate you and still totally overlook it (or possibly not even notice it) and be incredibly turned on by you, because you are a naked woman. We really are that easy to figure out.

I bet if you show him, it will become one of his favourite parts about you, I'm serious

Is it an evil parasitic twin growing on your ass? Bc if not, get a grip! First, acknowledge that the issue is YOURS not his (I am not referring to the the birthmark, but the fear you have). Second, recognize that you are ASSUMING he expects to see a perfect body. Again, that is YOUR assumption stemming from YOUR insecurity, not his! Once you are able to own your own shit, you can begin to see how you are making a big deal out of something in your head, which is not a big a deal in reality. You say he loves you--show you trust in that love and just let him see you! But first, sit down, and communicate with him about your fears and insecurities without laying anything on him. Remember, own your own shit & don't lay anything on him. Tell him what it looks like. You'll see he won't make a big deal out of it. Then, show it to him, but not during sex bc that's too risky for you emotionally. Once you see he won't leave you over it, & it's not such a big deal, you'll feel silly you blew it up in your head! Finally, many people choose to have such marks removed. Looking into that option, for the right reasons, isn't a bad thing(--HINT: "bc if I don't my bf won't love me anymore" is NOT the right reason). But if that's not an option, don't sweat it. You are more than your birthmark. Good luck!

He might have one too. Just talk to him about it and I am sure he won't care.

If he loves you he won't care how your body looks, but if your so self conscious then just put a bandaid over it or something lol

How big is it? What part of your body is it on? How to comment without the facts. If he love you he won't care about something so unimportant

nobodys perfect but i no how feal i feal the same but mines cos im slighty overweight you must talk to him tell him how u r fealing and im sure if he loves he will underdstand and wait till you are ready to show ur body to him

thankyou for all the support and comments. i finally bucked up this morning and told him about it then proceeded to show him. he said i was being silly for nothing.

My wife was the same way. She was paranoid over nothing..

You can get over this fear by showing him the birthmark when you aren't completely naked.

If he loves you he wouldn't mind he should love you for who you are.. But i'm the same im embarrassed about my body not for the same reason but it is still lights off. It is normal but don't feel you have too if your not ready he should understand.

if he rly does love u he wouldnt care. tell him why u never let him see u naked then show him the birthmark. if he insults u then hes not the one

Im sure if he truly loves you he wont care but if its that much of a problem you can get birthmarks removed now look it up on the internet

Get over it and let him see you naked. Nothing more aggrivating than a spouse not letting you see them naked especially if you have been together awhile.

If he loves you, he will not care.

He might have a big, hairy birth mark right smack in the worse place possible. It ain't all about you being perfect. If your truly in love, and I question that, then you should be able to be naked ad is and not ashamed.

if he loves you, he will love all of you.

Mine is on the inside of my arm and extends to part of my ribs. And you know what, i discovered his birthmark that i never noticed before but was always there, i guess it is because i am in love with HIM not what he looks like. He is far from self-concious about it, so im guessin that vanity is not something he is obsessed over which will make it so much easier for me to be open. @OgreMatt this comment from a guy makes me feel much me assured that it will not be a big deal.

I have a giant birthmark on the inside of my left thigh, I have had sex before and no guy said anything about it. You should tell him your self conscious about it, I'm possitive he will still love you!

thankyou guys! these all made me feel so much better. and you're right, if he loves me, then its not a big deal.

Hey, I had the same problem! I was always afraid of what my gf would think of my body... But from a guys standpoint, sure, some guys might not like it, but when u truely love someone, it doesn't matter if they have a slight flaw (a flaw perceived by you of course)! He will love u and be turned on no matter what I promise! Go for it! :)

Normal to feel this way. I got a dark mole on my side that I hated removed, I did it cuzz I didn't like it and was afraid it could turn cancerous. But I never had any guy say anything bad about it.

It's normal to feel that why but your boyfriend won't care about the birth mark, it may catch him off gaurd but why would he stop being with you for something as silly as a birthmark? Embrace your body you're unique

It's normal to be self concious about something like that. But i'd give him what he wants and it will probably turn out for the best. If he loves you, why would he care about a birth mark?

Does he know that you have a birthmark? Does he know why you don't let him see you naked?
Be brave! He will love you no less!

If he loves you he won't judge you for it, he fell in love with you not just your body