Sad because no guys like me?

I am a senior in college, never been in a relationship before. Every time I try to join a club or organization none of the guys seem interested in me and it breaks my heart because I want to find a guy who will like me. It doesn't help when I go on social media and see a majority of people are in relationships and I can't even find a single guy who wants to date me. When other girls talk about boy drama, I can't relate because I have never been in that position. No guys around me have been nice enough to want to get to know me or ask for my number to hangout.

And I don't get it because I know I am not ugly or overweight (5'5 and 125 pounds) and I take care of myself by trying to look presentable. I mean, I am not the prettiest girl by any means but I am not hideous either. Sometimes stranger compliment me by telling me I am pretty/beautiful. I am a shy girl but I am extremely nice.

I just feel like I will never find a guy because I have NEVER encountered a guy who really seemed eager to want to date me.

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  • xfg39

    Dress like an all-out whore. You are guaranteed to attract someone.

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  • almost0g

    What drives people away is desperation or
    being needy. Sometimes shyness is misinterpreted as being snobby or aloof. Not giving a fuck and being confidenct is sexy as hell. Join a club, do something that you enjoy...Have fun...don't give a shit. Guys will ensue.....

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  • McBean

    Something is wrong. If guys were going to talk to you, they would have done so by now. You need some guy to be brutally honest with you. In cases like yours, it's usually failure to project sexuality or some kind of hygiene issue. I would like to help you, but would have to meet you to do that.

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    • Like I said in another comment, the thing is that sometimes, I do catch guys staring at me but they never approach me. And older men/homeless men will tell me I am beautiful sometimes when I walk down the street. But it is rare for me to attract a college guy. So, it's not that I unattractive to all men. But its when I tried to join some clubs on campus where the guys didn't seem interested in me. So after that, I stopped joining clubs or organizations because it wasn't working for me.

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      • here2help

        keep in mind people join clubs to do something other than date strangers. dont expect guys to make the first move. just go up to them and say hi what do you have to lose?

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      • McBean

        Remember that there is a big difference between being beautiful and projecting sexuality and desire. Here is a link to get you started.

        https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=LOLMpPp1fu0

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    • Well, sometimes guys stare at me but they never approach me. Or sometimes older men or homeless men on the street will call me beautiful. But for some reason, when I tried to join a club or organization, the boys there just didn't seem to take interest in me.

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      • RandyRascal

        In a guy's mind, you have to be more than just beautiful. You have to be only reasonably attractive, but you also have to be a good fuck. I've stared at many women myself, looking for cues that would indicate she is comfortable with her own sexuality; that she enjoys a good fuck, and that sensual playfulness with a bit of flirting is instinctive for her.

        Want to flirt with me? I have boatloads of compliments for girls that enjoy talking dirty.

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  • RandyRascal

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    ♡♡♡ I think I love you. ♡♡♡
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  • RoseIsabella

    Maybe there have been some nice guys who were into you, but you didn't pick up on it. Most people are way more discreet than homeless dudes in the street.

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  • rayb12

    Yep, "extremely nice" is the kicker. Something a lot of girls don't realize is that getting approached by guys has very little to do with how desirable of a person you are.
    Of course there is a certain level of physical attractiveness which it sounds like you easily fall within, and then the rest is all attitude.
    Nice is like kryptonite to guys, we feel like we really see a person there and don't feel comfortable sexualizing you and just asking for a number.
    Guys are very visual, and meeting a person who is nice distracts us from that.
    I'm not saying you should be mean, that isn't good either, even though it would still be better, but just don't be nice, act like you are used to getting lots of attention from us.
    Then if you want to take it to another level, when you meet a guy, you can pretend like you like him. And do it in a way where he can tell that you are pretending.
    This gets into emotional manipulation, but is a trick that the girls who get tons of numbers do. Guys are thrown off because we're thinking she wouldn't do this if she disliked us, but it still feels that way, and we get sucked into shit like that.
    It's an ugly game, but that is the truth of it.
    Another thing is the way you dress.
    You can be creative with it but it still needs to be sexualized in a very mainstream way, tight clothing, hair up, nothing crazy. And some make up.
    Again, none of this necessarily makes you prettier, or more, yourself, but it makes you way more approachable in a pick-up scenario.
    You basically want to mask your personality entirely, and make guys feel like they need to do the work to really get your attention, you will figure it out.

    I know it is not ideal, but this is the real way it works. I'm sure you are a perfectly cool and attractive person, but that really has very little to do with a guy asking for your number.

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  • andariel97

    Im a guy and let me tell you that most of the guys are pigs. Lets say that only 10% of the guys are worth your time. There guys are usually the polite, educated guys who want to see a sign from you in order to pursue you. Since you shy they think you are not interested. They are just as shy as you. So take it easy. Your problem even though it seems serious to you, its only in your head. Maybe your body language just tells guys to leave you alone. Ask a guy friend of your what would he think of you if he didnt knew you well. Good luck

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  • ateb47

    You should go after father figure guys in their 50's and marry him and then you will have a Sugar Daddy for life.
    If he is rich , you will come into a large inheritance when he cashes in his chips and bites the dust and croaks,

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  • ateb47

    Have you flashed them your naked tits , your bald cunt , ass cheeks , ass crack , poop chute ?
    Have they flashed you their naked cocks and nut sacks ?
    Have you ever seen a naked 7 inch boner cock in person yet ?
    Are you a virgin ?
    Have you given blowjobs yet ?

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  • Holzman_67

    hmm maybe it will happen in a different way to what you expect and when you least expect it. lower your guard and enjoy being yourself. the guys will come. don't ever lose hope or belief in yourself

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  • Like I said in another comment, the thing is that sometimes, I do catch guys staring at me but they never approach me. And older men/homeless men will tell me I am beautiful sometimes when I walk down the street. But it is rare for me to attract a college guy. So, it's not that I unattractive to all men. But its when I tried to join some clubs on campus where the guys didn't seem interested in me. So after that, I stopped joining clubs or organizations because it wasn't working for me.

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  • But I am about to graduate college so this is not applicable to me...........

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    • Imonlyhereforonequestion

      Some guys like it if you go for them instead of waiting for someone to go for you. Also, I didn't get a "real" relationship until I was 32.

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  • here2help

    find a hobby you enjoy and meet someone who enjoys it as well. just because the guys in your organization dont express feelings toward you doesnt mean they dont like you. doll yourself up and be confident! ask a guy out, it will be a good change of pace. expecting someone to make the moves on you first only leads to failure. just go up to a guy and say hello. introduce yourself and just be up front and ask if they want to go out sometime. most will say no but its important not to be discouraged, as someone is bound to say yes. stay away from social media, people love to advertise nothing but the good things and brandish their relationships as they are weak minded and look for acceptance from their peers. other peoples relationships should not matter to you, only your relationships should be focused on. there are benefits and downsides to being in and out of relationships.

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  • felixy

    Attracting guys is purely physical, so focus your efforts there. Your weight is fine, if that's accurate. Get better with makeup, wear more flattering clothes. Be feminine and charming, and the attraction will come naturally.

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    • Yea, I already feel like I do those things................I guess I should just give up on love?

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      • insanebotv21

        Have you tried... Asking any of them? It's like, basic logic. If you want them to know that you want them, tell them so.

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      • ateb47

        Money cant buy love , money can only rent love by the hour.

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      • Murun

        Try without the make up? I've always preferred the natural look.
        Also, some men have problems approaching women they see as too attractive for them. Maybe you're in that category? It's more common than you'd think.

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      • felixy

        Find an honest person to give you an honest critique on your appearance.

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