Romantically attracted to girls and sexualy attracted to guys

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i am a girl romantically attracted to girls and sexualy attracted to guys
i didn't feel romantically with guys as much i feel with girls,But i feel like i can see my self having sex with a guy more than a girl... i feel like kissing, hugging and touching a girl is more romantic (than with a guy) i like female's body more than male's..sex with guys is fun,play..(& i love it) & relationship with girls is pure romantic!(i adore to try it) for me girls are more attractive than guys i feel friendship with guys more than girls .. but i want to have husband in the future... but now in my age 20 i really really want to be in love with a girl and i don't care about being in love with a guy at all!!!
(ps : my feeling with girls kissing, hugging and touching not more than that)
Is it normal to want girls more? to feel stronger emotions to girls?to staring at female body and feel i want to be closer? Is this normal?

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WordWizard

11 years ago

You may be bi. Maybe the feeling you are feeling is more a friendship not romantic.

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- reneesmee
  
  11 years ago
  
  I agree w/word wizard,that oyu maybe Bi.
  
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  - WordWizard
    
    11 years ago
    
    *you*
    
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- reneesmee
  
  11 years ago
  
  I know,I meant to you, simple mistake.
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  maybe i am bi..even if i don't think about it this way! it's not the first time i felt like that!..i am maybe bi and i don't wanna admit it!! because i am not sure about it!!all the guys i have dated it was because they want me..it's crazy i didn't wanted to date anyone(yes i wanted but not wanted like really really "want" if they didn't say they love me i will not think about them!)when i was 17 there was a girl i like and i was so serious about her!!..and i wanted to tell her that i love her somehow(she was straight)!!..but i didn't tell her!! my friend (girl) tells me "that's crazy don't even think about it"...i was like ahh ok we live in a country where "girl loves girl" is not even an option to think!! but the crazy thing is that i do love men!!! but i never want specific person it's just i love them!! it's crazy!!should i make a move to a girl regardless of the society? if it is about what i want now..yes i want to make a move (i mean now.. it's hard to think about the future i just want to live without restrictions "could i?" coz my head is about to explode) (your opinion)
  
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  - WordWizard
    
    11 years ago
    
    Well from what you said you sound gay. You do not sound like you are into men at all. It sounds like you are dating men out of pressure which is something that happens to a lot of people. I would say admit you are gay and give up on guys. I do think you will be much happier that way. You sound like you are in denial. You are gay and you think its wrong so are forcing yourself to like men but you really do not. Admitting it to yourself is the first step in getting over the problem. The Wizard has spoken I hope my advice helps you. If it can not I am truly sorry and this comment is useless.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      thnx WordWizard thank you for you comment
      
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      - WordWizard
        
        11 years ago
        
        You are very welcome.
        
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    11 years ago
    
    i didn't told the girl anything- that i loved when i was 17- ... i felt very confused after my bf opinion and i felt that all that was wrong and my feelings are not normal(& it makes me not sure about my feelings)...here i can have many opinions hope so
    
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NeuroNeptunian

11 years ago

It's fairly normal.

Obviously you have some attraction to women and you find it easier to relate to women which is normal. You obviously haven't related well to many men and that is fine. You're young. You're twenty. Don't think so hard about it. If you meet someone, male female or otherwise, there is no shame in feeling attracted towards them.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  NeuroNeptunian i think you can help me too , i need your opinion :)
  
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  - NeuroNeptunian
    
    11 years ago
    
    You can ask. I can't guarantee anything.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      ^ ^ i post it as comment under WordWizard's post I think I am confused or need a little support...I need your opinion "should i make a move to a girl regardless of the society?"i have mentioned the details in the WordWizard's post...when i was 17 i was following my heart more than my mind and now i don't think so!! i have to persuaded my mind ...and that's why i am on this page(for this spastic point)
      thnx
      
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      - WordWizard
        
        11 years ago
        
        Go with who makes you happy not who society wants for you.
        
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soconfused1423

11 years ago

Look at my post! It is almost identical. We're even around the same age.

http://isitnormal.com/story/iin-to-be-only-sexually-attracted-to-men-and-only-emotionally-to-girls-139590/

This is really interesting, I'd like to talk to you sometime and compare/contrast our thoughts

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  it is kinda the same , i believe i am lesbian now,, being with a girl is heaven ^.^
  when i read ur story it feels like ur me! i think ur lesbian kinda complicated coz we like doing sex wd guys! just search for ur happiness if u find it with girls then that's it, if u wanna talk and compare things i would like to
  
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  - soconfused1423
    
    11 years ago
    
    Yes, I would really like to talk and compare things. I have lots of questions!
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      ok go to chat here or msn !
      
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djbloomer

11 years ago

Very interesting comments...I would be interested in seeing the comments if the situation were reversed and this was a guy asking the question. What would you say then? Most people would respond respectfully but we all know there would be one of those people that would start name calling. I just don't understand why homosexuality or being bi is so much more accepted for women than men.

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- FuzzyJello
  
  11 years ago
  
  Lol funny you say that because I just signed up to ask a very similar question, but I think I have a good enough answer now.
  
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    11 years ago
    
    Is it not normal for me to be gay anyway ?
    i don't know y you two defend the rights of homosexuals males here..i think i wrought my story to have answers for my situations... and anyway i don't feel sexual desire to the girls it is more emotional than sexual (but it is stronger than my feeling with guys!!emotionally)and this is the problem i had sexual desires to guys in my life but it comes so fast then it goes..it is just strong at the moment!..then when it goes i didn't think about it!! that's y i said "sex with guys is fun,play..(& i love it)" because i feel excited to do that.. (ps:i am virgin in my country there is no way to have sex before marriage so i don't have this experiment) all i know now is that i kissed a guy and i didn't like it and it felt disgusting that he enjoy it while I'm not.. i can't try anything sexual this is my society i just can't! i feel i need to rush to know my sexuality but this is not option for me..
    i don't know!!!maybe i was not lucky with the boys i had dated!...ok i had never want a guy and my feelings with the girls are stronger but not that sexual feeling!
    So i am not sure about i am homosexual but i am sure that i'm into girls.. i think it's too hard for me to say I'm lez i feel i am not lez !! I Felt when i read ur comments that it is So clear i am lez Y u two think it's that clear!!?? it's not clear to me!!!
    
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    - FuzzyJello
      
      11 years ago
      
      I don't think your a lesbien, only you can figure out your sexuality. Talking to other people about how you feel should help though. Even if you are a lesbien or bi that wouldent be the end of the world I know a lot of people that are gay or bi and I don't consider that abnormal. It's possible that you just don't like the guys that you've dated and you havent met the right one. Personally I'm more atracted to guys but I am more likely to emotionally love a girl and I think I just need to meet the right girl before I can really be sexually atracted to her. Only you can really find out what your sexual orientation is, we can't tell you. You could try dating more feminine guys to see if you like them emotionally. Anyways good luck with everything I hope you get everything figured out.
      
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davesumba

11 years ago

seems like you are confused because you are surrounded by dumb guys. you'll find the right one.

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daddy007

11 years ago

I am no one to pass judgement but homosexuality is by all profound definitions and realities an "Abnormal" behavior. Just as admonished as incest. Meaning it's away from the NORM. Now I am sure that u might like the ass, or someone else's daughter or son as the case may be; staying with age and gender confines, and moral limits, but in the opposite sex - not the same sex. Also emotional attachments with the same sex are very natural i.e. father son, brothers, cousins and friends - albeit sexual, which is not natural in this case and in fact is morally degenerative and not allowed.

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MiaScarlette.

11 years ago

ME TOO. But opposite. I see girls as a sex toy and guys as a romantic void to fill. Which kinda sucks cuz yknow. But i dont ever want to marry a girl. But I know i COULD fall inlove with a girl and if i do oh well. Love is love(: Do what you wanna do! Do what makes you happy. 'nuff said.

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barbara.ella1999

11 years ago

I am a girl and often attracted by both male and female

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Anonymous Post Author

11 years ago

I am still discovering myself, i think that I have a lot of homosexual desires buried inside !

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daddy007

11 years ago

You just want romance in your life in the soft and smooth way with a man and since men in your life are not inclined such, you seek it with girls.

Now there is no such thing as born gay, but there is something as inclined gay by learned or induced behavior based on experience and inhibitions.

So may be you need to find the right guy who is older than you when you wish and you will find stability and fun and romance all in one.

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lalajohnson

11 years ago

I'm the same exact way. In my opinion, yes it is completely normal. I'm still not sure what I am yet but I have only been in one relationship with a girl. I love guys way more but it is completely normal. Do your thing :)

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Thearmsofpeace

11 years ago

I actually feel you on this one. I can be around a guy that has paid attention to me for more than 10 minutes and feel the sudden urge to start hugging him, just to make sure he keeps paying attention to me. But I don't really want to be gay with him…

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Hornyxeegirl

11 years ago

I know how u feel. I have a similar situation, i like dating men in real life but i prefer lesbian chat or stories than straight chat.

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- WordWizard
  
  11 years ago
  
  What is a sexphobia? Are you afraid of sex or afraid to think about it.
  
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Alcatrazclockcall

11 years ago

I have the reverse! It's not bad, you just need some experience to decide if you truly prefer one over the other, or both

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JBN

11 years ago

I like men too. Don't care for fish.

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Sadomasochist&BDSM

11 years ago

I agree with the words of WordWizard.

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spidercrowblaze18762

11 years ago

I think u are normal, not sure though.

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