Roller coaster self esteem

Boring I thought this poll was gonna be about actual Roller Coasters. FUN TIMES!

Ya me too.
I feel like I have a million problems so i don't ever feel comfortable with myself. I constantly seek approval and I feel like im a real failure. Unless maybe a really hot babe were to tell me other wise. But it hasn't happened in a while so my confidence is below hell. :/ not good in other words. We need some help
I actually just posted a similar story.. too bad no one has any good advice yet.

A lot of mistakes that creative people make, authors, artists and whatnot, is to base how they should feel about their work on other people's reactions. The problem with this is that the finer details are invisible to people who aren't trained to find them. This is two sided in that it makes good work have a glass ceiling for most people's approval, but also makes it such that shoddy work can still be popular.

It's an understandable trap to be caught in; nothing feels better than getting another person's approval. However, if the approval comes from someone who's biased towards you, they may be doing you a disservice if they don't find anything to critique. There's a distinct difference between work that is made to be well done, and work that is made to be popular. The best way to spot it is to get opinions from trained eyes that you can trust.

The long and short of it is that whatever kind of creative work you do, you should do it out of love. Doing it for approval may be a way to earn you money, but the best things in life can't be bought. Work for yourself in these matters. Do what you have to do to be satisfied with what you've done.

Love what you do, and seek improvement within yourself.

that's what i do... ): it really annoys me but i can't do anything about it. mine isn't just with writing though... Its with everything. Unless it is about animals- I always know with animal. (:

Its completly normal, but not good at all
you shouldnt be dependent on other ppl
if you really want to do good
you have to be confident in yourself
you have to find some way to find the confidence in you
living like this is not the way to live

Being a writer is hard, I know. I've been writing stories and poems since I was 10. It's only natural that some people will criticise your work, while others may thing it's brilliant. I myself, like Harry Potter, but hate the Twilight series. And it's like that with all stories and poems. But what makes a good author/writer is that you keep trying. Even if you have to prepare yourself for the worst, you can still keep faith in yourself. If a person doesn't like something, it only means that person doesn't like it. Not that it's rubbish. Because it's only an opinion. And writers get loads of different opinions after they publish their work and show it to others. But if you enjoy it, that's all that matters. Even if you're just doing it for fun, it doesn't matter. Just keep trying and don't lose confidence in yourself, because if you can write even one good poem/story, it shows that you have enough skill to be the perfect author. I was just like you once and I used to believe all the bullies from school who said I wrote a lot of rubbish. Now, I'm getting my work published and proving them wrong! If I can do it (with no qualifications at all), you can achieve your dream too. =o)

Buck up, do what you do.No reason for insecurity..that's weak. Stay focused on your work. If something sucks, take a day to reflect then come back to it..Its called being an artist yadig.

Harness the will to stop being a demoralized fuck, you subhuman.