Removing a friend

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There’s this guy I had as a friend, and at first he was really chill. We laughed and talked all night, the next day we’d do the same thing over again. I knew he was a flirt cause he hung out with other girls a lot and flirted with them. And because of that I said I wouldn’t like him in a romance type of way. But I did and it became painful to see him flirt, shortly after we stopped talking as much. We stopped calling each other and he started to ignore my text, I’d send a funny photo he’d read it and respond then I’d send something else and he’d leave me on R. Then I decided I was gonna remove him. But I never told him why. Then he blocked me and unfriended me from all his social media. And even now I can stop thinking about him. So much I had to come post this. So I was wondering if I handled this the right way.

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RoseIsabella

5 years ago

I guess he didn't appreciate your honesty. He seems like a very flaky sort of person.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  Im wondering if I should tell him why I removed him though. Or would that be a crusty move?
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    5 years ago
    
    There's no need to tell him, because he probably won't care, and if he did, then so what. He's a flirt, and he probably won't change.
    
    Just out of curiosity, why did you tell him that?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      5 years ago
      
      No I didn’t. I just removed him, I didn’t want him to know it was because I liked him. But to him it just seems like I randomly removed him.
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        5 years ago
        
        No, I mean why did you tell him, "I said I wouldn’t like him in a romance type of way"? I mean, kinda understand, because he's big ole flirt, but I don't see the point in just randomly telling him that, yanno? Also you said you liked him too.
        
        Either way it's probably for the best that ya'll are no longer close, because he's a big ole flirt anyway. You are probably better off without him. Sorry, but I gotta be real.
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        5 years ago
        
        Oh sorry I didn’t see your update. I didn’t tell him that I thought he was a flirt. I just removed myself from the whole equation. And you’re completely right, thanks for answering. We are no longer talking.
        
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  - nikkiclaire
    
    5 years ago
    
    If you want to look desperate af then that's the move to make.
    
    Otherwise just move on like others have said.
    
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paracetamol

5 years ago

Move on

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- RoseIsabella
  
  5 years ago
  
  Surely, there are greener pastures elsewhere.
  
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309uf2o38yf

5 years ago

Maybe you hurt his feelings by randomly removing him, so his actions were retaliation.

But honestly... if that's how he handles problems (passive-aggressively), then he's too immature for boyfriend material.

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bigbudchonga

5 years ago

Did you remover him and not tell him? if someone removed me then it would offend me.

I think this relationship is spent tbh. Unless you see him about, then maybe talk to him about it.

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kelili

5 years ago

Unfortunately this happens to many of us and it's normal that you are qsking yourself questions. You could have handled this in a million other ways and he could have been more frank if he didn't want to be with you anymore but it has already happened and now you have to stop asking yourself so much questions and just blame it on life. In some years you'll think about this and smile.

In my opinion both of you could have done better but it is not as if you have been very mean to each other. Just move on and begin another chapter.

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SwickDinging

5 years ago

If he wanted to be your boyfriend he should have asked you out. And he didn't. If you were that bothered about him you could have told him how you felt. But you didn't. Sounds like neither of you was interested enough for it to become anything meaningful.

I wouldn't worry about him, just move on.

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Meowypowers

5 years ago

You sound kind of needy

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  How so ?
  
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leggs91200

5 years ago

Millenials do this all the damn time. Yes it is normal.

They do not like how someone is acting or something they said so they go and block the person on all their social media.
He probably won't even notice you removed him.

Also, what does it mean to "leave someone on R"?

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- SwickDinging
  
  5 years ago
  
  Leggs, I'm glad you asked what that meant.
  
  Sometimes this website makes me feel very old.
  
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  - leggs91200
    
    5 years ago
    
    I guess leaving someone on R (read) is the equivalent of when WE were young and had to sit at home by the phone. Read below for the more comical version.
    
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    - SwickDinging
      
      5 years ago
      
      I remember doing this on occasion when I was in school. If my mother ever caught me she'd give me a big lecture about how you should never wait by the phone for a man.
      
      I'm happy to let the younger generations progress in their own way, but I do think a lot of mystery has been lost since everyone got a smart phone. It's changed people. It was good to go out and do things in the real world and enjoy them for what they were, without everyone knowing all about it as it happens and commenting on photos of it.
      
      Oh well, I guess we're just dinosaurs now. I'm sure everyone said the same thing about house phones back in the day.
      
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  He noticed, and leaving someone on R means you left them on read. In other words he read my message and didn’t respond.
  
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  - leggs91200
    
    5 years ago
    
    You kids have it good these days.
    Back when SwickDinging and i were young, we had to sit at home and keep everyone off the phone so that people could NOT call us back.
    Of course the phone would ring, our hearts would jump hoping our crush was calling, and it would instead be aunt Gertrude or some shit.
    
    On the other hand, we could make excuses like "Maybe they are not home" or there was a freak phone line problem. But NOPE, they were just ignoring us.
    
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    - SwickDinging
      
      5 years ago
      
      Or even worse... Your crush DID finally call and then your mother answered, and told them you were on the toilet.
      
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