Relationship with my cousin?

Well, I've always known that I had this cousin, but because of family differences we had never met... untill last year in 2009. We started talking, alot & shortly after confessed that we both had very strong feelings for eachother & it was confusing. We met for the first time shortly after we started talking & it was definately a very physical attraction as well. We've obviously kept this relationship a secret for the most part. I have read that other people are in similar situations with cousins & my question is did anyone in a similar reltionship let their families know? We've decided we want to be together but I have no idea how to go about telling my family & him his. I've told some friends and a few cousins know but it'll be different with the older generation of the family.
I've considered letting them know last minute, over the phone, letter, something that wouldn't cause me to see their reaction. But, that doesn't seem fair. So what would you suggest? Is this a normal concern? or am I making too big a deal of it?

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Comments ( 19 )
  • coryoct

    dont tell them im telling you it will be bad

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  • It's ok as long as there is no vaginal intercourse...

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  • I'm in a current relationship with my cousin and I to have not told the whole family. Me and him both r scared to see what they r going to say and do

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    • JellyLove

      Your babies are gonna look fucked up....

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  • Lostboy

    I don't think it's that bad honestly.

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  • mluker

    Did nothing

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  • steph413

    Cousin-relationships are accepted in many parts of the world. The united states isn't generally accepting of this arrangement, but there are progressive families in this country that are. Are you first cousins? Second and third cousin relationships tend to be far more accepted than that of first cousin relationships..

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  • Sickos.sorry to be the be atch.but gross man!

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  • roxco

    Sharing same genes can cause mutated chromosones which can lead to having children with mental retradation or physical disfigurements

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  • randomjelly

    You knew you two were related and you still allowed feelings to grow.... I've never understood that lack of common sense or decency. Seems so weak-minded and pathetic.

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  • Kerry69

    It depends on how old you both are; as to wheather you
    have to tell anyone ..Be happy..

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  • imadragon

    Think about you're parents... What if you had children, and (let's say if you have one) your sibling also did and they wanted to have a relationship? It's just.. Not right..

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  • zundervall

    Franklin and Eleanor Roosevelt were 3rd cousins. Didn't turn out to be the best marriage but their circumstances were unusual to say the least.

    There are too many cultural and biological problems involved here - avoid the relationship like the plague. Don't break up the family over something you'll lose in 10 years anyway.

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  • i dont think you should tell them...i think you should leave your cousin..my dad dated him FUCKING NIECE. sick basterd, his family know and stuff, and they dont talk to him. only his mom and a few sisters and brothers...dont do it. my dads insanely hurt by this happening.

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  • Whitneyhouston

    Well, I'd do the phone thing..are y'all getting marriend or what? And yes, y'all could have retarded children.. :( so you might want to consider adoption, sperm donor, or something.

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  • I agree with that guy...

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  • fatumquis

    Just ask your parents what they would think if you were to date your cousin.

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  • haha i have a bunch of second and third cousins i have never met because they live in canada and i live in england, but we get christmas letters and stuff from them and i have to say... some of my cousins are hot!

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  • mluker

    I thought a cousin was good looking for a hit minute, then I realized she was my cousin. So then I

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