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I am in a relationship I have kept secret from my family for like 2 years. It is with the mother of my brothers child. They are not together but it will still probably cause problems if they find out. Will their daughter be fucked up later in life. Am I fucked up for ever having anything with her. Is it normal?
This is just my opinion and shouldn't represent how everyone thinks. A lot of people on this site have a laissez-faire "do whatever makes you happy" attitude, but my moral code is a little less progressive in some respects.
I don't think you should have gotten involved with her being that she is the mother of your niece. I can't see how the relationship would be dynsfunctional and too far from normal but it will cause problems and unless you have a very mature and understanding family, there's a good chance it will spill over to your niece. These are things to think about before ever entering a relationship with someone that has prior history with your family.
I don't think you did anything wrong, but your family might not feel that way. You took the risk, one of these days, you might have to come clean. Be prepared for the consequences.