Relationship is falling apart

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This wasn't a good weekend and a good reason is because of the relationship I have with my boyfriend.

Yesterday I was cranky and my boyfriend wanted me to go with him to a hockey camp. I wasn't interested, but eventually we came to a compromise and I went with him. However, my aunt and uncle visited us. I asked him if he could socialize with the family for at least 5 minutes. My boyfriend didn't get up to talk to my family because of a baseball game. He didn't even get up when commercials was on. I wasn't too happy with him because he didn't want to compromise with me even though I did for him.

Today we were spending time with my brother and my neice. We were watching a movie and he kept touching me inappropriately. I kept telling him to stop, but he kept going. I eventually broke down and had a talk with him. I told him that I don't appreciate him touching me like that because it made me feel like I'm a sexual tool for him. Additionally, I didn't want my almost 3 year old neice to see that kind of behavior and to think it's ok to treat people like that. I gave him the example of me constantly tickling him and ignoring his words to boot. My mom even had to step in to say what I've been telling him the whole time.

I love my boyfriend still, but I'm afraid that one day I'm going to snap my crayons and give up on him

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    I think your boyfriend is selfish, and has a problem with being unable to respect your boundaries. He is, of course, unable to compromise as you mentioned, but he's got other problems as well.

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  • Boojum
    5 years ago

    I'll pick up on a minor point that you mention in passing first: why is your mother getting involved in your relationship with your boyfriend? For me, that would make sense only if you were both thirteen or something.

    From what you say, it sounds like your boyfriend has problems hearing your requests and acting on them. That implies a lack of respect for you, and I think you'd be sensible to take a step back and think seriously about whether you really want to spend time with the guy.

    Angelandme is right: established relationships tend not to involve a lot of explicit compromising. But I think that's either because the people were basically very simpatico from the start, or they're emotionally mature and they've learned that you have to modify your expectations based on what you know about the other person.

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  • lordofopinions
    5 years ago

    Not normal. He's treating you as property and a plaything. There are times for that but in the situations you described a big no!!

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  • McBean
    5 years ago

    Think of all the pain you will avoid if you give up on him sooner rather than later.

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  • Angelandme
    5 years ago

    It's ok to have moments of compromise in relationships. Can you guess what happens when there are too many of those in a relationship though? Relationships to me should feel like negotionshions are taking place instead of a full blown war. I expect to only see a compromise appear around 1 time a week anymore and that's ...ew. Honestly me and gf hasn't had to compromise anything this month even, and I'm not wipped I tell yah!
    There is another issue in your post though. It's good that you're telling him strait up how you feel about his PDA, communication is great.

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