Rejection, am i the main reason it fails ?

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Hi,Hope this mail finds you well
While searching the web , i've discovered this website , how i can belive that i feel i've reached the best for my problem
My wish is to look and act to life in more simple and easy way , but i am always facing failure/rejection in the relationship area, i guess that am loved with some people around me but not all of them , am a bit shy , i dont know how to show that i do care or love the person infron of me , may be what's make me not expressive is that am always feeling shy to show feelings , and to interact easily with prospects .
I need a strong change in my life towards my attitude , i need to leave a good impression about my self into new people i meet, it takes from me a long time to show that am a nice and kind person , but my real personality shows up too late to people,in this period i always loose alot of opportunities in my life and i feel depressed and uncontent afterwards and usually i need to restart my emotions and energy again which takes too long sufering time for me to recap again to my normal mood !!
am not feeling happy about myself , my attitude which turn to be aggresive somtimes, i feel somtimes that i hate myself and no body cares about me .. i need a positive push to get motivate to see all things not too much big after several rejections from guys who are always meet for a serious relation and suddenly they disappears , what make me amazed that they are always attrac ted when they see me before saying anything and after they know me i dont know what happens ...as i see them
Awaiting your advice
thanks if you get the time to read my mail :)

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  • youyou
    14 years ago

    Am 29 Years old :)
    if you have a link for the age group psyhological state please send to me to understand my self
    thanks

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  • wang35
    14 years ago

    are you a teen? older adult? Your feelings seem like the typical fear of rejection as a teen.

    The best relationship you can be in is one where you can be yourself and be comfortable. If you feel like if I only was with this person I would be happy. Your wrong. People make the mistake of getting in controlling an abusive relationships. You have to find value in yourself. No one knows what you like an who you are other than you. You may find that you are a controlling or abusive person once you're in a relationship.

    I would suggest finding out what you love to do and what you want to do with your life before getting to involve in serious relationships with boys. If you do, you have to think for your self as well as the other person. relationships are very much give and take. As many people as there are out there there are plenty of fish in the sea. Be careful because some come from abused chilhoods= bad relationships. Experience will teach you a lot. I would say read more about your age group in regard to psychological state. Freud was pretty damn good about what the age group is typically seeking.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    14 years ago

    I really need your advise, should i try to change my self according to the person infront of me?

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