Regaing trust

There are several issues that should be addressed based on this post:

1) It's concerning that he was able to know you were lying by talking to your friends.
Is it possible that you are too open with details to your friends?

2) Beyond that, some people are really strict with honesty, however, everybody lies. Every single person lies, including your beloved. Because of his accusations, I would wager this is more about jealousy than honesty.

3) The fact is, when you are dating someone, there is nothing wrong with speaking to other guys, people are people, who you speak to should have nothing to do with their sex.
The truth you were hiding wasn't that you cheated on him, it was that you are more experienced than he is. He has no reason to be worried about you talking to other guys.

4) That said, think about your limitations. You shouldn't have to resort to begging, pleading, crying, and demeaning yourself to earn forgiveness. I suggest you speak with him maturely, apologize for lying (which I am sure you have), explain that the lie was created because of fear. Because you got the reaction you feared it means your urge to lie wasn't absurd. In reality you did the right thing, because if you were honest in the beginning, you would have gotten the same jealousy.

5) You were damned if you do, damned if you didn't. You need to decide if he is worth all this drama. Your partner should make you feel good about being with him and you should feel lucky to be the other one's partner. If he has unrealistic expectations of complete honesty, or he is constantly worried for your faithfulness, then he isn't feeling lucky to be with you, and in that situation, you can do better.

It is not unrealistic to want to be in a relationship with somebody who is excited to be with you despite your flaws.

He needs to calm down and stop being so ridiculous. Yeah, you lied... honestly that will never bode well for anyone! However, considering what you lied about his reaction is a little over the top. Talk it through, he clearly needs to work through some issues! Good luck :)

You need to explain to him why you lied in the first place and how something so small should not jepordise your relationship. If your getting married then you must have a pretty serious relationship and trust is a key thing in marriage. I think you should maybe like spend some time together doing things which you enjoy and remind him why he is marrying you. To build the trust back up maybe you could ask him if there is anything you can do to prove yourself because if not then its up to him because there is nothing you can do. Good Luck xx

Men are just stubborn, I'm pretty sure he didn't like that you had more ex's than him either. He needs some time to get over it. Just don't "feed" the situation by over analyzing it.

That's something he has to overcome. It's his problem. You shouldn't have lied but you can try explaining to him why you did so. The past is the past and he needs to realize that. Your actions with past lovers had nothing to do with him.