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Some women like cuddling more than sex. If a straight woman with such preferences watches porn from time to time, do you think that she is likely to end up watching lesbian porn more than any other porn genre?
A.Yes, she is likely to prefer lesbian porn to other porn genres.
B. No, she isn´t more likely to prefer watching lesbian porn than other porn genres.
| A (I´m female) | 6 | |
| B (I´m female) | 14 | |
| A (I´m male) | 5 | |
| B (I´m male) | 9 |
I don't really think cuddling is directly related to lesbian sex. So no idea how you came to this conclusion.
I don´t think that lesbian sex or lesbian porn is directly related to cuddling. If a person is sexually attracted to women (i.e. straight men, lesbian women, bisexual men and women), watching lesbian porn can be highly sexual experience for them because there is an object of their sexual desire in a sexual situation. That´s why it makes sense if a person who is sexually aroused by women (i.e. straight man, lesbian woman, bisexual man or woman) likes watching lesbian porn. However, if a woman is straight she is by definition sexually aroused by men, not by women. If such a woman says that her favourite porn genre is lesbian porn, the question is why she prefers it to other porn genres. One explanation may be that lesbian porn corresponds with need of those women who prefer sensual play to rough sex more than e. g. straight porn. I can illustrate what I mean by words of a straight female user of this forum who offered an explanation why she likes lesbian porn (I came accross it in another thread):
“most straight porn is scripted with MALE desires in mind. Yes the porns might have a little bit of female stimulation, but the predominate factor is the penetration or plots that jump right into sex with less romance or less foreplay.
Lesbian porns however... unless you're getting into strap-ons or dildos is straight foreplay. And many of the porns focus on the buildup of tension rather than just jumping into the "lets fuck!" stage.
Such as... a massage that starts getting more and more sensual, where the person being touched isn't quite sure if it's what she thinks it is... until the tension is at the point where she's almost arching towards the touch, wanting it to be more.
Stuff like that right there can be much more tantalizing than seeing the classic "Hey i'm here to clean the apartment.... Let's have sex!" plots of many straight porns.“
As a bisexual woman, I can tell you that most lesbian porn isn't necessarily sensual from a female perspective, at least if we're talking about porn videos. The vast majority of lesbian porn is ALSO made with straight men in mind. It has very little to do with what actually makes women feel good and everything to do with male fantasies. In many cases, the women aren't even lesbians or bisexuals. There is lesbian porn made for lesbians, but you often have to be looking specifically for queer porn to find it. Most of the lesbian porn I've seen doesn't even make sense. I'm sure there are other women with other perspectives, but I find much of what I've seen way too unrealistic, mechanical, and unlikely to even feel good to be appealing. It's not about what women like, and it shows.
Also, calling lesbian sex "straight foreplay" is incorrect and kind of offensive. Lesbian sex is sex. There doesn't have to have a penis involved for it to be real sex.
I am not sure if that was clear but the second half of my previous comment wasn´t my own opinion but QUOTATION of words of a straight female user of this forum who offered an explanation why she likes lesbian porn (I came accross it in another thread). I just used her as an example how a straight woman herself may explain her fascination by lesbian porn.
I wanted to illustrate that it isn´t completely out of question if one thinks that a straight woman´s preference for lesbian porn can be related to her preference for sensual play, cuddling or tender love-making.
I completely agree with you in several respects:
1. lesbian porn isn't necessarily sensual
2. the vast majority of lesbian porn is ALSO made with straight men in mind
3. calling lesbian sex "straight foreplay" is incorrect and kind of offensive
4. lesbian sex is sex, there doesn't have to have a penis involved for it to be real sex
I must say that I don´t like the word “foreplay“ at all. In addition, I have a broader definition of what constitutes sex than many people and I hate when someone says that oral sex etc. is not real sex. For me, something like oral sex is real sex and I find it ridiculous to give it a status of mere foreplay. I agree with you that lesbian sex is sex. Moreover, I think that if a person is sexually attracted to women (i.e. straight men, lesbian women, bisexual men and women), watching lesbian porn can be highly sexual experience for them because there is an object of their sexual desire in a sexual situation. That´s why it makes sense if a person who is sexually aroused by women (i.e. straight man, lesbian woman, bisexual man or woman) likes watching lesbian porn. However, if a woman is straight she is by definition sexually aroused by men, not by women. If such a woman says that her favourite porn genre is lesbian porn, the question is why she prefers it to other porn genres. One explanation may be that lesbian porn corresponds with needs of those women who prefer sensual play or tender sex to rough sex (which is often depicted in straight porn). I wonder what other people think about this hypothesis and its potential to explain why some straight women prefer lesbian porn to other porn genres. Of course, if someone has another explanation for that, I will be glad to read about it.
I wonder if lesbian porn made for straight men is less appealing to me BECAUSE I'm bisexual, and thus have a different (and probably more realistic) view of what two women would actually enjoy together. I do like queer porn (gay or lesbian porn actually made for LGBT people), but like I said, you usually have to be looking for that.
If they're talking about something more along the lines or erotic fiction or comic porn, that makes more sense to me, because those things are more likely to be made with women in mind. I get that my sexuality isn't the same as everybody else's though. It's also possible that I'm just generally shittier at suspending my disbelief.
You may be right that "lesbian" porn made for straight men is less appealing to you BECAUSE you´re bisexual and you have more realistic view of what two women would actually enjoy together. I´ve never had sex with another woman (I´m a straight woman) and I don´t like watching lesbian porn so I may not be competent enough to assess how (un)realistic "lesbian" porn is but I wouldn´t be surprised if it was as close to real lesbian sex as female solo porn videos (made for straight men) are to real female masturbation :)
It seems you're just curious about why straight ladies watch lesbian porn. Um, so I watch lesbian porn (I don't watch it more than any other genre.) And here are my two cents.
Women have two types of orgasms the external (clit) and the internal (vagina)
Men also have two types the external (dick) and the internal (prostate)
Most men and women masturbate externally. In straight porn there's oral sex, vaginal sex, and anal sex. While all three of these involve external male stimulation only one focuses on external female stimulation.
I watch a lot of porn that focuses on the clit because that's what I masturbate with. Often that is lesbian porn. (But there's straight porn too) Normally, it's really hard to find good porn though because a lot of lesbian porn is made for the male gaze.
But what I don't understand is what my porn or masturbation habits say about my sex life. I don't prefer cuddling to sex. There isn't even anything sexual about cuddling. Have you ever heard of somebody getting an orgasm while cuddling?