Rape? or i deserved it? iin?

Why did no one help you? And if you didn't want it, it was rape.

When I was in the military, I came home on leave and went to a night club with one of my friends. I met a woman and we ended up going to her house where we commenced to mess around. Things started to get heavy I still had my pants on, but I was goin down on her when she pulled my hair as hard as it has ever been pulled. She actually pulled hair out of my head. I said what the fuck bitch, she got really pissed and kicked me out her house. The cops showed up at my door at 4 am and promptly took me to jail. Now when they told what I was being charged with, I felt horrible and sick to my stomach. But thank god for rape kits, there was no semen, there was no tearing of the inner wall of the vagina. There was no beat up of any part of the vagina of any kind. There's like twenty something tests that they do and all were negative beyond being turned on. Now I'm not taking the guys side here whatsoever, but all I'm saying is that had I actually had sex with her, I would have gone to prison. Women have all the power plain and simple. That being said it takes a very low life, scummy, turd burglar, to rape a woman. And I think you need to turn this person in. Because he thinks he got one over you, and he is telling all his friends how he took took you and how you liked it. If he's did this to you he will do it again. It's a shitty thing what happened to you, but you have the power to save the next girl. I know in my experience I swore off women for almost five years. I thought they were devils, all of them. But I met a woman and fell in love, all I'm saying is don't blame every guy, there are some good ones out there. I hope you find peace in your life.

Sorry to hear about that. Id definitely press charges against him

you said 'no' ... talk to the police

for the 1 person(at time of writing) that thinks this is normal: please see a therapist or go back to trollandia.

@OP: seriously, you need to ASK? I'd be greatly interested what constitutes rape in your book, if not being fucked against your will by a person using violence to get his way.

*leaves this thread shaking her lowered head slowly, murmuring "What has this world come to" repeatedly *

Definitely rape. Doesn't matter how drunk you were, or what you were wearing, or even if you'd straight up promised him sex and told him you were really into the idea then changed your mind right at the last minute - it's your right to back out whenever and at whatever point you choose to. Go to the police or this will definitely happen to somebody else.

I can't believe no one helped :/ I'm sorry it definitely wasn't deserved it's never "deserved" go report him!

No one deserves to be raped. There are no excuses for it. Yes, you were drinking, but he still should've been able to control himself. He doesn't sound like a friend and your dorm mates are even worse for not coming in and seeing what was wrong. Report him to The authorities and go into therapy. The therapist should be able to better help you deal with the situation and have you realise that it's not your fault. Good Luck:)

He was really drunk I don't think he knew what he was doing, and the people who heard/saw said they didn't know if it was rape or just weird sex so they just left it alone, and thanks guys, I was blaming myself for it so I feel a little better now knowing it actually was rape and not something I had coming

Definitely not your fault, if he was a friend he would not have hurt you like he did. Hope you dont ever see or talk to him again and I think he needs a baseball bat in his balls.

dude, hes not much of a friend if he raped you, and even other people heard it. someone need to kick him in the balls a few times