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Is it normal to feel so much hate towards someone. and think that they are a complete ingrade idiot,with no responsabilities, selfish, and completely brushes of there own problems like they are a piece of rubbish and goes on with life not realizing that running away from all this is actually making it worse, and i cant say a dam thing to them about it in fear of getting hurt?
By the way, your feelings of intense anger and hatred are normal right now so don't beat yourself up for it.
Wow! Well I can't say exactly what's wrong but I can say with a high degree of certainty that she is suffering from some type of mental illness. I can't say which one for sure, because her symptoms match so many, but her behavior is definitely not within the normal range.
She is quite obviously abusive, not just to you but to the child. Neglect IS abuse. I can't tell you what to do but I can tell you what I would do. I would report her behavior to Child, Youth and Family Services for starters. She is setting the child up to repeat her behavior when he grows up. The cycle will repeat itself. She is damaging him absolutely. There is no guarantee that they will do anything but they do have to investigate and you can ask that it be done anonymously. It may take repeated reportings before anything gets done.
But, other than that I would take yourself to a psychologist because that person can help you understand what type of mental illness she is struggling with. I would go first by yourself without telling her because she may try to abuse you if she knows. A psychologist can find out more details and help you decide a plan of action.
It may be that you have to leave this situation and abandon this relationship for your own sake. Be very concerned about your own mental health. Abusers have a way of sucking you in so that sooner or later you can't think clearly anymore and you literally stop realizing that you are being abused. Basically you stop remembering the difference between abnormal and normal behavior.
Also, I would suggest you ask the psychologist for the name of a good child psychologist. You may be able to help this small and vulnerable life. You can try to advocate for him the best you can, but in the end there may be nothing you can do for either of them.
I hope that is some help. Don't knuckle under to her tyranny.
thankyou so much, your advice has helped, I do keep my distance, but she is family so i cant avoid her completely, we have informed child protection and she is currently recievieving help because we told her to volounteer herself to get the help from them, your info has helped very much.and i feel a little normal again. thankyou again.
ok understand, she is 30, has a child, still lives at home, pays no rent or utilities, gets money of daddy with no thought of paying it back, pretty much parties every weekend, with the child in tow, and gets no attention except if he has done somthing naughty, and it is frustrating and i cant say anything cause she is a violent person and has givin me a good beating before, even her family dont confront her.
You are not giving enough details about this person. Hate is not normal, no, but try to describe more accurately and with more detail what this other person is doing, then you will get better answers.