Quiet and shy.

Everyone at my school tells me I'm too quiet. My teachers all wish I would contribute more in class, but I'm not the talkative type- partly because I don't like my voice. It doesn't sound like a normal girl. I also hate the crowded halls, and prefer not to eat in the cafeteria because it's so noisy. Making eye contact sometimes makes me feel like I'm staring at the person I'm talking to.

Is any of this normal?

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87% Normal
Based on 95 votes (83 yes)
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Comments ( 14 )
  • Jacqueline

    A lot of people are like that, including me, I really think its fucking stupid when they ask questions like "why are you so quiet?" They say stuff like that because silence just naturally makes people awkward. Just find other shy people and you'll connect.

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  • LoveYouBabe

    Your a lot like my boyfriend. He makes me feel so special since he opens up only to me <3 :)

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  • Thatguy777

    It's ok. I know a very shy and quiet girl, and she is like the most beautiful girl I've ever met.

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  • Chuddz

    I'm the same but I don't feel awkward around people, if anyone confronts you about being quite say you're a listener. I would much rather listen to someone than talk, not because I don't like my own voice but I feel more comfortable that way. If you are worried about eye contact just look at the bridge of the nose of the person you are talking to, that way you won't feel as though you are staring at them, they won't be able to tell :)

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  • I have a classmate like that. I am like that myself around strangers but around my friends I talk a nice amount. You are normal.

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  • xxxMissFitxxx

    I was bullied through school for being shy :(

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  • exbubblehead

    don't look them in the eye look at the bridge of his/her nose

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  • Wow it sounds like I wrote this lol. This is exactly how I feel! People have actually said 'You know you never talk, why don't you talk?' and it makes me more self concious and makes me talk less... And I HATE eye contact if I notice someone looking at me I'll look and look away very quickly becuase we've made eye contact for a milliasecond and it freaks ms out... I hate being shy but I don't know how to change it and I feel like people think I just don't want to talk to them and I'm being a snob when really I just can't make conversations with people without sounding like an idiot!
    Oh and I hate my voice to I feel like I sound to much like a guy, I've told my friend this and they laugh saying I don't sound like a guy... but I can't shake that I do sound like one...

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  • Brittanylovesu33

    I'm the same way. I'm very shy and I get anxious around people.

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  • OliTheMute

    Being Quiet and shy is mostly normal. Its just other people that make it seem unnormal

    People ask me Why am i so quiet and stuff like that. its not like i choose to be -_- thats like saying why are you disabled to a disabled person

    As Far as i know, you should grow out of it, but maybe not, who knows. i hope so atleast

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  • HellAndHighWater

    I don't belive that anyone's "quiet"- everyone talks when they feel they are being listened to.

    You're normal.

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  • spunkygirl1

    i believe its completely normal whats wrong with deeply thinking you dont have to talk 24/7 to be normal :)

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  • meatpie_yum

    It's completely normal. All throughout high school, i barely spoke a word. I, too, was always told by teachers to contribute more, and i always got graded lower than other people in the contribution part of my reports. Im not a talkative person either, but that's usually because i cant relate to other people in my class and i generally have no interest in what they're saying lol.
    Id say as long as you have a group of friends, find a place away from all the hustle-and-bustle to hang out. And in class, i think if you shouldnt worry about the teachers hassling you to contribute. You can contribute if the teachers ask a question, or maybe you can just put in your two-cents worth every now and then. :)

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  • PoisonFlowers

    I'm just like you. I had to force myself to "contribute" in class (I was scared that if I didn't, the teacher would do the job for me and pick on me.)
    Eye contact feels unnatural to me and I also hate my voice, but I'm trying to get used to it.

    Don't let other people make you feel as though there's something wrong with you. You are just the way you are. Just because you don't conform to their standards of what a person should act like, it doesn't mean that you "have to" change! There are quiet, shy people and there are loud, sociable people as well as those in between and just plain weird people. The more extroverted people tend to dominate, but don't let that get you down. I'm sure you're a great person as you are.

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