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So this question is for the guys (preferably ones who are in their late 20s to mid 30s). Anyway, I just turned 18 and I'm interested in a guy who is in his late 20s. Knowing that the girl was of age (eighteen) would you ask her out even though she was a lot younger than you? Or does age not matter to guys as long as the girl is attractive and you're compatible?
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Just a thing from the other side of the fence, even though you asked guys:
Unless you are fine with a short fling, where age won't matter as much, do make certain that he's also looking for something long-term before getting emotionally evolved.
When i was a bit younger than you, i also had a slight crush on a guy significantly older...the only man that every interested me in a relationship-way. So, i flirted with him and he showed interest, we went out a few times, started having sex a few times, and shortly after, i saw him kissing with another girl. I confronted him and he bluntly told me he never was serious about me and it was just for the sex, if i didn't understand that i really was such a child as my age had implied.
That just as a warning, there...by all means, go for it, and try your luck, just, do make sure you are both aiming for the same thing before putting your heart into this-
Thanks for this it was good advice, but I'm not looking to have a sexual relationship with him. I just want to go out, get to know him, maybe makeout, but I definitely am not ready to go all the way...
Good luck but be careful. Many men - maybe most single men - are already sexually active. Don't stick around if hes expecting it to be a "package deal" (no not all men are like that but, whether intentionally or not, as a much younger female you might feel some pressure to deliver some goods. Especially if he's been sexually active before.) Also you are placing yourself in a particularly vulnerable position to be taken advantage of by less savory men of that age. Again, be careful!
This was really great advice and really nice. Thank you and I agree with you completely. It is a very difficult situation to be in but I am pretty confident in my judgement. Plus, I don't plan on taking it super fast or anything and if a guy ever pressured me I'd break up with him in a heartbeat. It's really not worth the risk for me. Also, I think the way I conduct makes it way obvious to guys that I'm a "good girl" and they won't be getting anything.
I'm 30 and I would date an 18 year old girl but she would have to be pretty fucking special. Most girls that age are too immature for me. They can't hold a decent conversation about a serious topic. If they were intelligent and VERY mature for their age then yes I would date an 18 year old.
I had a very serious, and otherwise healthy, relationship with a guy 17 years older than me. It started when I was 23 (he was 40) and ended three and half years later.
The circumstances around our break up were complicated, but I can tell you, neither of us went into it wanting a "short fling" and the complications, which led to the demise of our relationship, had nothing to do with our difference in age.
Maturity has to be there for BOTH sides, whether you're 18 or 80. Age isn't always a factor in maturity level.
I was just asked out buy a girl 1/2 my age. I said no but I've been wondering about it ever since.
It would probably depend. Some guys wouldn't believe you responsible enough to handle an adult relationship with someone their age.