Prom problems

So, prom is coming up, and I have a conundrum.

Last year, after attending prom as a Junior, I told my girlfriend that I have no interest in going next year as Seniors. She said okay, and we let it be for the better half of a year. Recently, with prom coming up she has been pressuring me, telling me that we need to go, and that it's a big deal to her, and I just don't want to, so I won't.

Well, a few weeks ago we got in the biggest fight of our relationship, about me not wanting to go to prom. I have several reasons for not wanting to... Recently my mother was laid off from her job, and she's only working temporarily on little side jobs. So, it's not that I'm poor, but I have to be frugal with my money because it's tight around the household. Also, with college coming up I'm trying to save every penny I have, because I'll be attending a big University.

Anyways, so we got over the first fight, but just today she tells me that she's going to go to prom, with a friend of mine. I was stunned, in all honesty, and I don't know what to think. I've told her how much it hurts for her to say she's going to go with my friend (even though she says it's "just as friends..."). So here I am, feeling like I just hit in the face.

At this point, I don't know what to do. Should I let her go (which would probably kill me on the inside), should I break-up with her (which would probably kill me, too), or do you IINers have a proposed third party choice.

Let me once again restate that I do understand that it's very conceited of me not to go to prom with her. But what she's doing is crossing the line, in my opinion. I've even tried to make plans on prom day to do something else, like a nice restaurant dinner, but she wouldn't budge.

What would you do? is it normal to be leaning towards breaking up with her? Please help me, I'm at a loss.

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Comments ( 12 )
  • Antir0b0t

    Even if she wants to go and you don't, why can't she just go with friends? She doesn't need a date, even if they're going together "as friends". That's complete bullshit and I would be pissed. I would never let someone do that to me. Not cool gf. Not cool.

    And dude, honestly, if you're going to University are you going to be with her still? The sooner you end it the faster you can get happy and stable again. Just something to ponder.

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  • sweetpea29

    Why don't you guys go to who ever is planning prom and ask if you could get a discount on the tickets and tell them your situation? That could help you?
    because the teacher in charge of the planning in my h/s told me that last year they gave out 20 tickets for free b/c kids couldn't pay.
    try that.
    But she is crossing the line and you should tell her. Why doesn't she go with a girl friend instead of your friend? (if you end up not going)

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  • sosueme

    prom is all about the dress for girls. they could care less about their date.

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  • solidman

    Dude just go to prom with her I sucks for you but you've got to make sacrifices while in a relationship, tell her about your money problem and ask her if she can help you find a side-job that can make you offered for yours prom.

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  • Lynxikat

    I personally don't think you're conceited for not wanting to go to prom. You already went once, and you don't feel like you need to do it again- there's nothing wrong with that.

    The money issue is a good and logical reason to not attend prom- if you're tight with money and have no desire in the first place to go to prom, then it would be a waste of money if you went. I think it's your gf who's being conceited by not accepting the fact that you don't want to go to prom, and decided to go with another guy as her date. She didn't HAVE to get another guy as a date, she could have hung out with her friends at prom, like I did. I think you trying to set up a dinner date is sweet : )

    I wouldn't say break up with her. If she really refuses to do anything else with you, it might be best to let her go...

    I'm curious- is your school having an after prom? Maybe you could just go to that.

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    • Yeah, we have an after prom. However, it's at a water-park. Sounds cool, but it was kinda boring last year. Anyways, the only way to get into the water-park is to attend prom since the school rents out the whole place. So, yeah, to do that I'd have to go to prom.

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  • auzzie

    Just go- but tell her u are not spending money.
    So where last years suit, get your mum to drop you of ect.

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    • Lynxikat

      Dude, if you go to prom there's no possible way to NOT spend money. Prom tickets are expensive.

      Besides with the suit thing, a lot of guys just rent tuxedos- if he went to prom this year, he'd have to rent a tux again.

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  • Me neither... But that's coz I dropped out too soon :( hi5? No? ... Okay D:

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  • lc1988

    I don't understand what is so spectacular about prom..but then again, I never went. Could you maybe plan some romantic evening on prom night for her? Make her dinner, add some dancing from music on a stereo. Just thinking of cheap options. She sounds like a selfish bitch though since she asked your friend to go instead. Anyways, life is a bit bigger than senior prom. I doubt you'll die if you break up with her.

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    • Shackleford96

      I never went to prom either!

      *Hi fives.

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    • I already tried to make other plans with her. She had none of it, so yeah, I'm pretty frustrated with the whole situation. I'll add that in the story, though. Thanks, man.

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