Pretending to have a secret lesbian affair

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Well, where to start. Im bisexual, and i prefer women to men, i came out about two years ago to friends (not to family) and no-one treats me any differently. Which is fine by me, and to be honest even if they did treat me any differently i dont think id be fazed! One of my close friends is also bisexual (we shall call her Kaylee) , however shes not out to all of her friends yet, and shes been having difficulty trying to get used to it. Ive been there to help her through it and im sure shes very thankful. Anyway, we have a very gullable friend, who weve managed to convince that me and kaylee are having a secret lesbian affair, we've had a fantastic time pretending to be together and its been really good fun! Kaylees best friend (Lets call her Sarah) does not know that Kaylee is Bi-sexual, shes to scared to tell her due to the fact that sarah would more than likely react badly. Sarah knows that me and kaylee are winding up our other friend, but sarahs beginning to worry that whats going on between me and kaylee is real, and its scaring sarah! Me and kaylee are discussing possibly ending the pretend affair. Here is where i need your help
1) I dont want to end it, its brought me and kaylee closer together, and im starting to fall for her. What should i do?
2) Kaylee doesnt want to tell sarah about her being bisexual although theyve known each other for ages, kaylee is scared of loosing a best friend... but isit worth having a best friend who cant accept you for who you are?

Basically I need help lol
Thanx

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  • Scrat
    14 years ago

    Just tell her how you really feel about her and have a real lesbian realationship and tell your friend that no need to afraid she needs to be herself

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    • 1000yrVampireKing
      11 years ago

      Yes what scrat said.

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    • haroon5
      12 years ago

      hello its fine me im man and ilike girls ans and lisbian really

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  • johnsonj121698
    11 years ago

    If "Sarah" is her best friend it should be perfectly fine with her.

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  • BarNGrill
    13 years ago

    Let her know. Its up to her to feel anything after that and do something about it. Then all ya'll can handle whatever happens.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    oh god that's happened to me before - we're in the same boat although for me it's slightly different. (I think) my friend is straight, but she and I have this thing going on when we pretend to be having a lesbian affair. But I actually am kind of falling for her, and she just sees it as a big joke, (which is fair enough, as that's how it started out.) How do I end this well?

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  • rawr!
    13 years ago

    Awww I'm sorry Sandra I'm going thru the same thing rite now :(

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    13 years ago

    Update: Kaylee is now with our very gullable friend, kaylee told me she liked Mr gullable, and beens as im a good friend I said we have to end it. We ended it and they were together within the day. I still feel the same way about kaylee, she actually slept up my house the other day, and im not going to tell her how i feel as shes happy, and thats all that matters.
    Also sarah completely flipped when she found out that kaylee had kissed me in a game of spin the bottle, she couldnt look at me or kaylee for ages, so looks like sarah isnt going to find out either!
    But its killing my seeing Kaylee with mr gullable.

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    • 1000yrVampireKing
      11 years ago

      So your friend is with someone else?

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  • mishj6
    14 years ago

    I would let her know. An unaccepting friend is a friend not worth having

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  • smiley101
    14 years ago

    How did you know you were lesbo?

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  • rawr!
    14 years ago

    Umm I actually went thru the same thing except.. My friend is straight. We were best friends and ways pretending we were together. Slowly I started falling for her and it got in the way of me and my gf. But I really wanted to be with my friend. When I told her how I felt.. Well let's say we are not friends anymore and it's awkward for me to work with her.. Sigh I miss her but the way she started acting... She's jus being a total beyotch. So it's up to u if u wanna tell her. It may turn out better since she is bi. Shoot she may even feel the same way! :) whatever u decide I hope it works out :)

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  • kdblueeyes
    14 years ago

    Honestly being a person whos friend came out to them as being bi sometimes it doesnt surprise us as much as the person thinks. Now if her friend cant accept that about her she doesnt really know enough about her to care about being her friend. As for yout predicament try asking if she has ever thoighy aboit makinh it a rwal relationship, making jokingly or retorical and gauge it from there.

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  • jsyk
    14 years ago

    one hiding who you are is bad for anyone, two if they have been such close friends for this long im sure sarah would be shocked but she'd get over it, and if she didn't then she was never really her friend. 3 TELL HER! you can't hide these feelings forever and maybe it would make things wierd if she didnt feel the same way but seeing as how she has gone along with this fake affair for so long its a great possibility that she likes you too. and having a real girlfriend might help give her the courage to come out.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    14 years ago

    Im slightly to shy to tell her plus if she says no things could become awkward :/

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    • 1000yrVampireKing
      11 years ago

      Well how will you know if you dont try. How about you ask a bunch of hypothetical questions. Some typical and some not so typical. See how she responds and ask "Would she ever consider dating you for real" Just hypothetically to see her reaction.

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  • feelinglikeroadkill
    14 years ago

    i think you should leave it up to your friend and let her decide if she wants to come out w/being bi on her own, and if these so called friends dont accept her then there not really her friends anyways, so i wouldnt worry about that part, if you are really interested in this girl you should just come out and tell her, all she can say is no and it really seems like you two are pretty close anyways, i would bet that this girl probably likes you, she just has been scared to say anything, just come out w/it, i bet it works out

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  • ruralfrights
    14 years ago

    Ever notice that bi-sexual is surrounded with secrets and uncertainties and usually involve insecurities about sexualities and first-time experiences. I know I'll get heat for this but bisexual is synonymous with I'm gay and don't wNt to let people now, I want to live a normal life with a little side kick. I'm still coming out of the closet. I mean how many people do you know who have lived forty years and claim to be bisexual. A term for a wanna be straight, but a ganna be gay Stop using that dned word. Your gay!!!

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  • plzdonglaugh
    14 years ago

    Don't pretend.

    Do it faggot. [C WUT I DID THAR?]

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