Pregnant women need sympathy

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Is it normal to feel frustrated that my friend feels like she needs sympathy for being pregnant? She posts on facebook explicit details about how often she got sick the other night, and lost weight all because she forgot to take her morning sickness pills. She group texts a group of her friends, with me included saying, "fuck this shit." When we ask what is wrong? She then responds with a whole lecture of how horrible it is being pregnant. The next day she then calls me to talk about explicit details of how horrible her pregnancy is.

She is the one that had sex, and wanted to get pregnant in the first place, knowing that she has a hard time while being pregnant.

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[Old Memory]

9 years ago

Ugh, I hate women like that. I have nothing against pregnant women, until they start acting like pregnancy is a handicap. Its literally entirely up to the female to decide if she wants to become pregnant or not, and she shouldn't bitch and moan about it if she decides to do so. My aunt once found out she was alittle over a month pregnant, and the very same day she started claiming she can't cook or help with chores anymore because she's pregnant. She also ate 3 times as much as everyone else did.

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- charli.m
  
  9 years ago
  
  http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hyperemesis_gravidarum
  
  You better hope you don't get this when you have kids, you'll have yo eat your own words.
  
  I know someone who had it. All her muscle mass got eaten away because she was vomiting all the time and her body was trying to keep the baby healthy. She couldn't keep down water, let alone food, and anti nausea medication that they give to cancer patients wasn't even able to help.
  
  Sounds like the person OP is talking about has this. Both you and they should be ashamed of your total lack of empathy.
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    9 years ago
    
    If someone isn't prepared for the potential risks of pregnancy, they should not fall pregnant. I don't give a flying fuck how bad it is, its their choice and no one forced them to go through the pregnancy, therefore its nobody's problem but the woman who is pregnant. Pregnancy is something a woman chooses, and if she's either too dumb to use birth control or too naïve to realise its not a cake walk, she shouldn't be allowed to even parent a child in the first place.
    
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    - charli.m
      
      9 years ago
      
      You really are an awful, awful person. I feel sorry for you. Your life must be awful that you think of others like this.
      
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      - [Old Memory]
        
        9 years ago
        
        On the contrary, I have a great life. Live in a nice place, have an amazing boyfriend, financially well off, in good health, everything most people kind of wish they had, I have it. I don't have anything to ever worry or stress about, and I enjoy every single day of my life. I'm never bitter nor am I ever unhappy, which is why people like you who assume I HAVE to act a certain way or I'm awful, simply amuse me because you get so worked up over someone on the internet that has a different opinion than yours. Haha, you're the one with a lame life.
        
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        charli.m
        
        9 years ago
        
        Keep on bragging. That really means so much.
        
        Your behaviour is proof of what you really are, and that's here for everyone to see.
        
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- daydreamer394
  
  9 years ago
  
  That's like saying someone can't have complain during LABOUR because they chose to have a child.
  Your aunt is a different story.
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    9 years ago
    
    My aunt is an idiot. She used her pregnancy as an excuse to be a lazy freeloader who didn't help out with anything around the house and ate way more than everyone else, and then she got an abortion when the novalty of being pregnant wore off.
    
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CloverFish

9 years ago

Life for a pregnant woman is hard, even if they did choose to become pregnant in the first place. Being pregnant messes with your hormones and makes them sore and sick a majority of the time. It's probably her way of coping with pain by venting, since, when you're pregnant, your options for helping with the symptoms are severely limited.

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deadtea

9 years ago

Maybe she doesn't have anyone supporting her enough to feel comfortable about it? It's natural that a person who's not feeling well needs attention mentally, just to know that there's someone by their side. It makes them feel safer.

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Peanuts

7 years ago

Oh my god nooooo. She sounds so annoying lol.

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RainbowFlash

9 years ago

I guess OP doesn't have a shred of sympathy.

Hope you never have kids.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  You guessed wrong. I have sympathy and I want children one day. I even work with children, and love it. I care about her. I just get frustrated when the only time she talks to me is when she needs to vent. Then when she is done venting she then says she needs to go. I watched her son often when a few years ago she was pregnant with her daughter because she was too sick to get out of bed. I had sympathy for her then and I have sympathy for her now. The difference between last time and this time is last time she was always reminding herself the baby is worth it. This time she just seems to feel sorry for herself.
  
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  - RainbowFlash
    
    9 years ago
    
    Right now, she is probably going through hell. Her hormones are going crazy, she is probably stressed, overthinking and rethinking everything in her life.. She trusts you and she feels she can vent to you.
    
    She is probably also very busy, perhaps if you want to be more than "just a vent", reach out to her and invite her places where it is not optimal to vent or discuss things. See a movie or something, I am sure it would help her just as much as talking.
    
    I apologise for misjudging your sympathy. You can do more for her without compromising the relationship, you can enjoy each others' company as friends and dispense with stressors of daily life, but you might have to reach out to her more.
    
    Think about how memories work. At the start, we remember only the good bits, after that the memories of less ideal things follow. She probably is remembering all of the problems she had in the past and it is undoubtedly taking its toll.
    
    You can change that without having to talk it out. Remind her she has a life outside pregnancy and be a friend, I am sure it will help.
    
    Good luck.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      9 years ago
      
      Thank you. I will try your idea of just simply hanging out with her. :)
      
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      - RainbowFlash
        
        9 years ago
        
        Good luck and thank you from a female, for being there for her.
        
        It really helps, she might not say thank you, but I am sure it is appreciated.
        
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wistfulmaiden

9 years ago

Youre not a very good friend.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Read the comment above. And about the friend thing I oppose to that.
  
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  - wistfulmaiden
    
    9 years ago
    
    OK I reconsidered: YOUR friend sounds kind of bitchy but a lot of women aren't that classless as to post those kind of comments on Facebook and refer to their pregnancy as "this shit". Maybe she is having a really hard time(if she isn't generally a bitch Id give her a break. Puking all the time can make you hate the world).
    Anyway I hope she decides if being pregnant is so bad to not have any more kids and whine about it.
    
    btw I only had one child, I found being a mother incredibly harder than I had guessed so I did the sensible thing and stopped at one.
    
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RoseIsabella

9 years ago

Well, she does have a person growing inside of her.

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- GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
  
  9 years ago
  
  Can you imagine if babies came out as full grown people. Lady parts would be tore up. lol
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    9 years ago
    
    I know that's right!
    
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GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!

9 years ago

I have zero sympathy for single mothers. If they don't respect themselves enough to keep their legs closed until they find a man that will respect, protect, and care for them then why should I?.

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