Prank marriage

19% Normal

A few years ago after high school I met a guy who told me that he used to have a gigantic crush on me some freshmen year. We talked for a bit and went on went on a few dates. Honestly I don't have any feelings for him he's very handsome and used to play baseball and was on the track team and was a straight A student. I just don't have feelings for him though.

On the fourth date he propose to me and a year later we got married. We have been together for three years now and I think I'm ready to tell him that I never had feelings for him and only said yes to make him happy and make his dreams come true. I know it's heartless and all but I didn't want to reject him and hurt his feelings. We don't have children so the divorce won't be that bad just two cats and a dog.

I will admit that we have had some good times together but I would rather be with someone I love.

Advice? Is the normal? Has anyone else done this?

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19% Normal

Based on 64 votes (12 yes)

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disthing

9 years ago | pl

I .. don't understand why you would accept a proposal and get married to someone you never had feelings for?

And stay with them for three years, knowing you feel nothing for them?

That just seems deceptive to me, and a strange thing to do.

Sort of reminds me of an episode of Peep Show in which Mark gets married to Sophie "to avoid embarrassment".

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CountessDouche

9 years ago | pl

What I find most disturbing about this post is your nonchalantary...so, let's review, you make a lifelong commitment with someone because you don't want to hurt his feelings, and, what the hell, he's good on paper. You use the word "prank" as if destroying and gutting another human being is the equivalent of seran wrapping a toilet seat. I hope your husband gets custody of the pets...those little fuzzies don't belong with a fucking SOCIOPATH like you.

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- RoseIsabella
  
  9 years ago | pl
  
  I bet he makes good money and she's just just been using him. Sociopath is a good call on this one.
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    9 years ago
    
    I don't think a sociopath would care about hurting his feelings. Sounds more like an intellectual problem.
    
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    - RoseIsabella
      
      9 years ago
      
      Hmm... I still stand by my supposition, but what kinda intellectual problem?
      
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      - [Old Memory]
        
        9 years ago
        
        Inability to problem solve.
        A sociopath wouldn't care about his feelings, but they could also lie about that. However they wouldn't have as much motive to lie when asking for anonymous advice. It's possible an intellectually challenged sociopath might though.
        
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        [Old Memory]
        
        9 years ago
        
        I can actually think of a few reasons someone might do this. It's also possible OP gives into whatever people want without thinking about what she wants but has grown since then and realized why that was a bad idea and wants out.
        
        Either way psychoanalyzing OP is not going to be helpful and we should focus on giving advice instead of trying to diagnose someone we don't even know.
        
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  - CountessDouche
    
    9 years ago
    
    I know, right? Thank Goodness there are no children involved!
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      9 years ago
      
      I feel the same
      
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    9 years ago
    
    I don't use people
    
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    - disthing
      
      9 years ago
      
      Can you explain exactly what was going through your mind when you accepted a marriage proposal on the 4th date from a guy you didn't have feelings for?
      
      I find it really hard to understand how you could have thought that was a good idea, rather than a totally disastrous decision.
      
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      - Anonymous Post Author
        
        9 years ago
        
        "I don't want to hurt his feelings."
        
        "He's loved me for so long."
        
        "I want to make him happy."
        
        More?
        
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        disthing
        
        9 years ago | pl
        
        But you didn't think...
        
        "I would be lying to him"
        
        "I will probably break up with him eventually because I don't love him."
        
        "It's only our fourth date"
        
        "A sham marriage is only going to hurt both of us."
        
        "I would be deceiving not only him, but friends and family who think I've found 'the one'."
        
        "My wedding vows would be meaningless."
        
        "I better just be honest, let him down gently now rather than shatter his heart 3 years down the line."
        
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        It's just very odd behaviour from someone, to be so concerned about hurting another person's feelings that you'd marry them to avoid the awkward situation :/ After the divorce, I think you should be careful about how you approach future relationships.
        
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    - RoseIsabella
      
      9 years ago
      
      Then why did you live a lie and waste over three years of this poor guy's life?
      
      Have you ever seen a mental heath professional before? I'm not trying to be mean, but you do sound like a narcissistic sociopath. It's like you have no conscious.
      
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      - Anonymous Post Author
        
        9 years ago
        
        No
        
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        RoseIsabella
        
        9 years ago
        
        Well, then there's no time like present to take care of business and go see a mental health professional. What you've done isn't normal.
        
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  I owned a cat and he owned a cat before we got married. He won't be getting my cat.
  
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NurseDiesel

9 years ago | pl

You're a liar and fuckin asshole cuntface.

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gummy_jr

9 years ago | pl

This is the most fucked up thing I've read on this site, and I've seen some fucked up shit here.

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RoseIsabella

9 years ago

It's like you have no soul at all.
>:-(

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Hamid37USA

9 years ago

Thank you for offer of sex.
When you leave husband for me I much excite to come for you. Please send credit card number for use in deal and I come in amireca for you.

Love,
-Hamid

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SkullsNRoses

9 years ago

I get the feeling this is one of those "serious trolls".

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- [Old Memory]
  
  9 years ago
  
  I thought the same thing after reading that post.
  
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gorillaphant

9 years ago

seriously?

Did you not understand what a marriage was? Personally, I don't think you should be allowed to divorce. However that isn't really fair to your partner. Some partner you turned out to be. You actually kind of deserved to be cheated on. And that woman will be so much prettier than you...and probably actually have feelings for your husband. Poor guy.

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TheOneWhoComesFromEnordro

9 years ago

Dick move, OP, dick move. Maybe someone will do the same to you one day. Just don't come cryin' to us when your feelings are hurt about it. Cruelty begets cruelty and you'll get your just deserts. Trust me on that one.

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- RoseIsabella
  
  9 years ago
  
  Karma is a bitch.
  
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JohnTrollinski

9 years ago

My brain....

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Cuntsiclestick

9 years ago

I'm pretty sure OP is a troll.

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KeepsakeDoll

9 years ago

You just made it worse.

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NiniCool

9 years ago

You are retarded.

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GreyWulfen

9 years ago

Marrying him was the dumbest thing you could possibly have done. Whatever you do, it's a fail-fail situation for you now.

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[Old Memory]

9 years ago

Sounds like you got yourself in a tough situation.
I think most these comments criticizing you seem unnecessary because it doesn't do any good to keep going on about what's already done when we should be discussing a solution.

One thing you should ask yourself is if you think you are capable of having those kinds of feelings for anybody and if so what it is about this guy that makes you not care for him that way, since he seems to care for you.

Sometimes the greatest thing in a partner is how much they like you and not whether they meet unrealistic standards. Is it possible you will split from him only to realize you regret that as well?

If you actually care about his feelings you are in a tough situation. You might actually want a therapists advice on that one because I don't know either.

If you feel you cannot love anyone then you will only end up with the same situation unless you choose to be single. You might even find in that case it could be best to stick with what you've got.

Only you will be able to answer your questions.

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