Ppl think its wrong to kiss a friend while in relationship why?

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OK so in a relationship/married or single either way; (assuming mutual consent; WHY does everyone seem to think its wrong to kiss or hold a friend whether romantically, but with no intent to lead to sex, or just a hello/goodbye smooch? I understand the rule don't have sex with anyone but your spouse, but I really don’t get the thing about 'emotional cheating' and ‘its wrong to even enjoy the warmth of a friend.’ I would never expect my partner to miss out on such experiences and find it a positive experience myself to share warmth with a friend myself, BUT NOT SEX. I AM NOT A SWINGER, I just love to share a romantic moment with a friend or fall asleep beside a friend. So society… Since 70% of you insist that it is wrong, THEN WHY IS IT. I am a Christian and have never found a Christian scripture that to my knowledge explicitly says that it is, but I have found one saying to practice social kissing. Anyone gave a LOGICAL or SCRIPTURAL reason? (Christians or not)

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  • imadragon
    10 years ago

    I depends on the people in the relationship, what cheating is is something you have to discuss with your partner. Not with everyone else.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      very true! I am just trying to figure out why those who know what is right for everyone else think that it is wrong. Just trying to get their logic.... ???????

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  • Sunshine:)
    10 years ago

    Well...It's kind of hard to explain. I am a Christian also, but I'm not really the best in this topic. Hmm...I think it is because if they're kissing but not yet married, it could easily turn to sex, which shouldn't happen before marriage. Also, he/she may want to save their first kiss for that one very special person. Best answer I can think of.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Sunshine:) like the name

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      • Sunshine:)
        10 years ago

        Thanks!!

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    Would you be okay with your partner kissing and cuddling with other people? There's your answer.

    In any case, discuss it with your partner and if your partner is okay with it that's all that matters. If your partner isn't okay with it, you should stop immediately and not do it again while you're in a relationship with them.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Did you read the post ... I said I would never want my partner to have to pass that up if they had a situation where it was what they wanted... I love my partner, and I want my partner to do the things that make them happy :) I just wouldn't want them to screw the person.

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      • dom180
        10 years ago

        Fair enough.

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  • Inkla
    10 years ago

    Because it is something special when couples 'spoon' or kiss intimately, it is a special moment and a sign of romantic affection. I don't understand why friends would need that level of affection when it becomes romantic, hugging friends/kisses on the cheek is innocent and fine but friends are here for hundreds of other reasons. If you're not in a relationship I can understand why you might crave this kind of affection off friends but if you have someone special surely having romantic times should be a special thing between just you and them :) as for the emotional cheating I think it really depends on the persons views. I personally have never craved the warmth of a friend as in needing to fall asleep with them I'd only associate that with something to do with a partner.

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  • DannyKanes
    10 years ago

    I think it all comes down to context. Giving your friend a kiss on the cheek? No problems. Full on French kissing and tongue? Not so much. Fall asleep on a friends shoulder? No problem. Spooning under covers? Not so much.

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    • shuggy-chan
      10 years ago

      Spooning leads to sporking

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        10 years ago

        Not necessarily... I couldn't do that to my spouse or to my closest friendships. I have better character than that. Just because I kiss them and love on them doesn't mean I am gong to do it with them.

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        • [Old Memory]
          10 years ago

          But some people dont see a difference... For some emotional cheating is way worse than having sex with others

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      OK, but the fundamental question: WHY is spooning wrong? I just don't get it? Anyway...Thank you for the reply.

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      • dom180
        10 years ago

        Cheating doesn't just mean having sex. A lot of people aren't comfortable with their partner having romantic intimacy with other people regardless of whether that includes sex or not.

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