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in short, i smoke weed everyday and i dont give a f**k. but lately, ive begun to give a f**k. i think that my excessive toking has made me boring and dull. ive lost friends and sooooo much cash.
is it normal for pot to kill your personality?
Yes i was the same way just didnt really have a personality just was high all the time give it up
i used to smoke occasionally and just by myself for personal enjoyment; that was OKAY.
but pot makes life really dull, now. everything looks like a painting when im high and like im not participating in the world. i feel lifeless and without feeling. just sitting there, sleepy. it's 'mellow' but its also just really stupid. i think my attitude to it just changed a lot
don't shoot me down in flames here, just hear me out. Firstly, I'm not judging anyone for their habits - I have in fact smoked weed a few times myself, but not as a habitual thing. When I was in my 20's, I did the whole trip - wild parties, massive amounts of booze and sex and of course there were the users and potheads in our circles. I tended to steer clear of them, not because the mere fact that they smoke weed upset me, but because of their behaviour when they were high. They'd be slowed up and act stupid, talk a lot of crap and so on - same thing I'd do when drunk I guess. The problem comes in when this habit is constant and you can NEVER have an intelligent or realistic conversation with them. Nothing gets done in time or properly (weed absolutely killed my husbands band and they went from the brink of success to making fools of themselves in front of talent scouts at a battle of the bands evening). They lose sight of their hygiene and most pot smokers I've known have gone from hot young men to shrivelled, skinny guys that look like hobo's, I noticed most of them either had missing teeth or their teeth were rotten. This disgusted me more than their doping. So I think you might want to re-evalute yourself and your personal habits - that might be the key to why your friends have moved on.
Yes, it is. It changed mine. I remember one day my mom said to me, "What happened to you? You're so different." And I never did any drugs other than pot and shrooms, so it's not like I became an addict. Just a pothead. Boring, lifeless, and much slower than I was before. I'm (mostly) clean for two years now and honestly just recently I've noticed my old quick wit coming back. See this post that I just commented on, lol.
http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-to-suddenly-lose-most-of-my-friends-37055/
For the last year and a half i've been smoking weed about 3 times a week (i'd like to think, on average). I've always been intelligent, and i got straight a*s at gcse and in the january exams this year got really high grades at AS level (a few 100%s and the rest close). However, i feel so much less sharp than i used to be. I feel much less intelligent, and incredibly less socially interactive and able to form a conversation.
My music teacher said to me "Your alertness and upbeatness in conversation was something i always admired and respected. I'm not sure where it's gone". This really dug deep and confirmed my fears over the last few months. I used to have a lot of common sense, being able to speak to people regardless if i knew them or not. I even had a driving lesson today and my instructor confirmed that i need to use my brain outside of school studies. As in, use your brain and get some common sense!
I find it hard to socialise, i get nervous going into my 6th form common room and talking to other people in my year. With friends i meet up with (who i don't go to school with), we may talk for a while but then break into silence, and i don't know where to start or pick up the conversation from. I feel like my mind has been numbed and i can't think clearly anymore when it comes to a simply task of "communicating".
I am good at regurgitating information from books (nowhere near as good as i used to be), but am hoping to get into Oxford or Cambridge university, and seriously doubt what i am capable of now. In interview, i might just fumble and not know anything. I've really cut back on weed recently, smoking a small joint once a week or something. But i know i need to stop. i want to change, i want to be my normal self again. i even feel like i'm becoming more depressed as i separate myself from social life. I'm glad some people feel some of the same things that i am going through. But i think that i need some help getting through, and some understanding people to support me.
The same thing happened to me. I used to be funny and quick witted. I smoked a lot of pot for 3 years. My friend had this RooR bong and I'd take the most massive rips and I'd get the most incredible highs. People say it's safe to drive on pot obviously is not that high. I was in another world kind of high. Everything I did, I was so intensely into it when I was high. After about a couple of months, I started disconnecting from everything and I couldn't socialize anymore. I remember this span of a couple of months where I all of the sudden felt empty and dead around everyone. I stopped smoking for 5 years now and I still feel empty and dead around everyone. It's the worst thing that's happened to me.
I don't think I turned stupid either. I still finished my masters degree in neural engineering. But I have no personality at all. I have no coherent identity. There's nothing that I really identify with that I feel is me, and hence I'm always thinking different perspectives trying to work that out and it's paralyzing. Also my memory went to shit, a lot of times in the middle of saying a phrase, I would suddenly not be able to think of a word. I end up talking all slow. A lot of people told me that I sound retarded and I'm not surprised, most people just avoid me after talking to me one or two times.
It's hurt me incredibly professionally as well. It's incredibly debilitating.
I never used pot. I tried it but it didn't do anything enjoyable for me. But I did use antidepressants for what turned out to be depression caused by an undiagnosed illness, and I believe the antidepressants dulled me, made me apathetic, and maybe slowed my brain down. But the other possibility is that being anemic killed my brain from lack of oxygen. But I have been told my personality changed.
It just depends on the person I suppose. When my wolfpack and I smoke we laugh so hard, occasionally we almost piss ourselves and other times we have really deep, insightful conversations. You probably need to find more exciting friends. Lol
I don't know how old you are but I'm assuming you're around 18 or so, but it seems like you are still pretty wet behind the ears. Just from this, it seems like you have an addictive personality.. This means that you would be more prone to let drugs or alcohol ruin your life. If your parents or older siblings have a substance problem (because this very common is hereditary) you better not try any hard drugs else you'll be the guy out selling his butt for dope.. no kidding. So be VERY careful with partying!!
Yah, all my stoner friends don't come out partying. When I visit them I sit there and watch them get stoned because I can't motivate them to do anything, they don't have anything interesting to say and don't have anything to occupy them.
Sometimes when my best friend goes home and smokes up after school I regret hanging at hers because she is so much fun sober. It's like a kick in the teeth that I have to endure that part of her, it used to be cool when I was doing it with her but I lost my personality and lost a lot and decided it was time to quit.
I am still trying to find the old me but getting stoned used to be fun then it became boring so I just stick to the amphetamines.
The first couples of times i smoked it was awesome i laughed till i almost peed myself, it was sooo much fun. When i kept doing it with friends, they would all be laughing at something supposedly funny(idk i dont remember) i would smile and pretend i was having fun. It became really stupid. I dont do it anymore becuz it made me bored and boring, also my ex looked really unattractive when i smoked.
smoking it everyday can leave you lifeless but if you smoke it occasionally for the right reasons (creativity, concertration, social events) it should be ok, seems to me like you`re ready to change
smoking pot is not living in reality. its living in a dream-world.
don't live in the matrix.
get out there and be in the world, dude!
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Plus, re-evaluate your friendships that you broke because of your boring lifestyle. Ask them what bothers them more: the fact that you have become boring to them, or the fact that you smoke marijuana and they think it's wrong. Keep and win back the good ones, ditch the rest.
Don't toke up and just sit there and do nothing - that's a waste of weed if you do that all of the time!
Go to some marijuana forums on the internet. Those people on there have a lot of great suggestions for things (use your own judgment about the safety though) to try while high.
Dope killed my personality somewhere too...
Ive been smoking it everyday for the last 2-3 years everyday, it does take it's toll, i lost friends too, but you get over it, you learn how not to give a f**k the rest of your life like me!
There are plenty of people who smoke lots of pot and remain interesting and lively. If you're like most people, lack of physical activity could just as easily be your culprit. If quitting is difficult, why not commit to going for a jog after each bowl you smoke? You might still be a heavy pot smoker, but at least you'll be in shape.
yeah i did it for 3 years and when i look backward hmm well i missed everything
It can make you boring, yeah, if its all that you do. Think about it: smoking pot makes you complacent just sitting around doing nothing. If you sit around doing noting all day (because you're stoned), then you won't ever learn new things, meet new people, have new experiences, etc. Pot relieves boredom, but boredom stimulates creativity: when you're bored, you seek out something to do, whether that be getting a job, hanging out with friends, exercising, or spending time on a hobby.
Consider laying off the pot for awhile, or only smoking on the weekends or in the evenings. This helped me get through a similar slump.
Pot didn't kill your personality or make you a bum. You're just dull on your own.