Posing as someone i'm not online...

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The thing is, I told this man I was someone I wasn't because I didn't expect to talk to him ever again. I was bored and annoyed when he first messaged me so I didn't really care. Somewhere in the conversation, I started to get interested in him. But since I had said I was someone I wasn't (wrong name, age), I kept on with it. I started dodging questions about me, and when I did answer something, I'd make it up.

By the end of the 2-hour convo, I felt like talking to him again. He was funny and interesting, and cute in a strange way, MUCH older... totally different from anything I'd go for typically.

He caught me online again and I just couldn't turn him down, and I didn't want to tell him I'd lied. I think he'd stop talking to me if he realized that I was only 20 (he's 43 and not the type who would seem comfortable talking to someone younger)

So this has been going on for a few months now. He wants to meet me in person, but I don't have the heart to tell him that it won't happen because I'm not who he thinks he knows.

I'd love to tell him the truth, but I think it'd offend him more than anything at this point. And I think we're so far into it that there's no just abandoning our conversations.

I know it's not 'normal'... but I'd rather talk to him than hang out with my friends usually. It'd just be nice if I wasn't the only person out there.

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Comments ( 12 )
  • missworld7
    13 years ago

    If you two are in love, I think you should tell him.

    But you should tell him the truth, just tell him that the reason why you lied to him about who you were was because you barely knew him and you did not know that the conversation was going to escalate any further. Basically, that you lied to him for security reasons (ie: You weren't sure you could trust anyone on the internet). I think he would understand.

    Although, you seemed to have kept this going for months, he's probably going to want to know why you didn't just tell him sooner.

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  • 8415123355
    13 years ago

    I wouldnt disclose information like that online. If you want to keep talking to him, make him realize that it is as far as your relationship will go. If he persists just stop talking to him, he'll get the hint.

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  • buttkicker0
    13 years ago

    hahaha missworld7 ur an idiot...how r they going to be inlove

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  • koifish
    13 years ago

    Just tell him. It can't hurt cause you don't know him in real life.

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  • Sweetz
    13 years ago

    Ha

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  • Sweetz
    13 years ago

    Little by little start spilling out truths hs

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  • joliepanty
    13 years ago

    tell him and explain very clearly why you did it. Apologize for it.
    IF he is a MAN he will understand. If he doesn't and accept your apology you haven't lost much.

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  • beautiful_dreamer
    13 years ago

    Oh hon, no. Just no. Just as you are making things up, he could too as well. Lies can be a dangerous thing, especially online. Can't tell you how many young adults get into trouble like this. Online, you can be anyone and no one would know.

    I suggest you tell him the truth, and if he still wants to get to know you, do so online still. That way, you know for sure about his intentions. If you truly must meet this person, do so at a public place with a friend, and don't let him lead you anywhere alone no matter how nice he is. If you're suspicious for any reason at all, cut off all contact with him. Best of luck to you.

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  • jimmyj67
    13 years ago

    I wouldn't meet him. Not because you lied, but he could be lying. He could be dangerous. If you tell him you are just uncomfortable about meeting him in person, you won't have to meet him or tell him you lied

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  • KathIsCrazy
    13 years ago

    Me &my friend did this on myspace kinda in middle school

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    the guy above me is right :) best comment ever

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  • buttkicker0
    13 years ago

    The internet sucks to find and meet people trust me I've been through something similar

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