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Ok so at 29 I should be totally into having sex and I feel like I'm afraid of it. Been with a guy for 4 years and in the beginning we had sex all the time. Now it's nothing, I can watch porn and it gets me hot and really horny but real life nothing. Could it be I'm tired for the same thing with the same person? Or am I just in a slump and it will come back soon enough?
It takes imagination and innovation to keep sex fun and interesting with the same person for a long period of time. The same old, same old anything can become boring, even if it feels good.
There are plenty of books out there and I'm sure plenty on the internet, centered around couples and keeping your sex life alive and fun.
Even the simplest things, like washing each other in the shower/bath, or full body massages can lead you back to the passion you had before. Don't forget romantic dinners and time spent together just because your partner is your best friend. Go on dates and picnics, you know, all that fun stuff you used to do when you were wooing someone. Woo your partner, once again.
Porn usually seems to be the reason behind that kind of thing. It desensitizes you, and like someone already said, distracts you from real intimacy. It also kind of destroys your imagination, which is kind of important in keeping a sex life fun and exciting.
Ive never been into porn, except gay porn but I think its funny as in amusing funny.