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Porn desensitization

To what extent do you belive that porn can wreck your sexual attraction and or function in real life. This would include :

- making you less aroused by actual people than before

- expecting oversized genitilia or unrealistic sex acts.

- expecting sex to be better or different in some way

- not being made aware of how partners actually enjoy sex in real life, not as rough as porn ect.

- making it more difficult to get hard or wet in real life with arousal from actual people.

If any other big things make a difference include those in your vote.

10, even a little porn can destroy your real sex life	1
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5, in moderation porn will only have mild effects	6
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3, a large amount of rough or exaggerated porn can cause issues	9
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1, all the porn you can eat and no problems at all in real life function	4

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[Old Memory]

4 years ago

I found myself wanting to role play porn style sex acts with my partner all the time. Fortunately I was in a relationship in which i could do that as we were both very open minded about such things. However it kind of became addictive and when I didn't have that kind of sex my orgasm wasn't as good so I wanted only that kind of sex all the time. I My partner also became bored of it and it became a bit of an issue. We had to consciously try to just have more 'vanilla' sex.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  Lucky for you you are in a relationshio that likes getting creative. I definently think porn holds value for more kinky couples for ideas and inspiration, but please understand that very few people like sex like you do. This is not a problem for you, but for the majority of vanilla people like myself, porn can be much more detrimental. Agreed?
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    4 years ago
    
    I think people kind of make it more of a problem than it is because of their own underlying hang ups and issues about sex which are most likely indoctrinated by their religion and culture etc.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      4 years ago
      
      Hmmm. Very interesting thought. I was raised religious so the first real exposure to sex I got was porn so perhaps that is the reason it was so problematic for me later on. Haven't thought of it that way before. Not sure I totally agree that porn doesn't cause any issues but I now see how it is very individual in terms of how it affects people. Like if some people take it too seriously and literally, or if there only exposure to sex is by porn, than it is much more of an issue.
      
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      - [Old Memory]
        
        4 years ago
        
        I'm not religious and never have been but apart from the very sterile scientific views we were taught at school my first exposure about sex was also porn. I think it was the same for many teens in the era in which I grew up. It wasn't difficult to happen across pornorgraphic material left around the place. I think religion definitively plays into the way you see it though because relgious people have very particular views about sexuality. It is seen as something sinful outside of marriage etc. I don't feel ashamed about sex at all. I believe that it's just a primal instinct and you just get off however you can as long as it is mutually consenting between adults then it's all good. Moderation is key.
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        4 years ago
        
        Well thats good to know. My parents actually held me out of our schools sex ed because they wanted to impress their 'Christian' perspective on me. Perhaps this is why porn caused problems for me which other people have also commented. Moderation is key, I agree because too much can definently warp your view too much.
        
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[Old Memory]

4 years ago

Hasn't wrecked my sexual attraction and I have watched my fair share of porn

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  May I ask your gender?
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    4 years ago
    
    I am strait with a cock
    
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    - [Old Memory]
      
      4 years ago
      
      Should have said I have a strait cock... Right, that's a new saying for straight men! Hes a "strait cock"
      
      strait straight, howeva the f you spell it
      
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      - Anonymous Post Author
        
        4 years ago
        
        Okay. Well good for you for not having porn fuck you up. I definently wasn't so lucky. What factors do you think made it a big problem for me and not for you?
        
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        [Old Memory]
        
        4 years ago
        
        It wasn't just the porn that fucked you up, there was other factors at play. Kind of like horror movies don't make people commit murder, there is always other pieces that made the puzzle produce a picture.
        
        I think with you, early on especially in high-school you probably got picked on, an a lot of the time girls injected themselves into the bullying
        
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hal8513

4 years ago

I was abused sexually by my Aunt at age 5. My first time I saw porn was at age 22 I was hooked bad............

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leggs91200

4 years ago

Porn is a part of the satisfaction of sex but with none of the bullshit.

Anyways with porn, there is this concern that someone would not be able to perform as well with actual people. Why does that even matter? Don't nobody owe anyone else intimacy/sex.

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- Doesnormalmatter
  
  4 years ago
  
  Yes I do understand your viewpoint that some poeple don't care. I was just wondering what people thought because for me specifically, porn construed my view of sex over more long term and made it harder to get aroused for it in the short term. And maybe I only think it's a problem because I don't enjoy porn anywhere nearly as much as actual sex, if you enjoy porn as much as sex or close to it, or just think sex is too hard to get, than what this post is means less to you. Good perspective mate! I am OP BTW
  
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IrishPotato

4 years ago

Watched a fair share and it didn't change my sex life one bit.

Maybe you have to be dysfunctional to begin with for it to effect you, dunno.

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- Doesnormalmatter
  
  4 years ago
  
  I was raised very religious and my parents made me miss the schools sex ed to give me their "Christian point of view" instead. So porn, of the quite graphic BDSM type, was my first exposure for quite a long time so that might be part of it. Also do you think some poeple are just easier to numb than others? Because one big problem for me was having difficulty being aroused after watching naked women got at it for hours In porn. Interesting thoughts mate!
  
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[Old Memory]

4 years ago

This is why I quit watching porn. It was causing disinterest and a lack of desire to emotionalise it. Sex is better now without it.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  Well I'm glad you agree mate! Do you think the people that disagree are in denial? And also I'm curious if you have a dick or not?
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    4 years ago
    
    Well, I think some may be in denial.
    
    And yes, I have a heterosexual penis.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      4 years ago
      
      Thank you for your thoughts mate!
      
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      - [Old Memory]
        
        4 years ago
        
        Youre welcome. So... do you have a pecker or a vahoo hoo?
        
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        4 years ago
        
        I have a penis and enjoy using it!
        
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TheBlindInquisitor

4 years ago

Honestly all one has to do is stop for a about a week then things go back to normal.

At least it dose for me.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  I see. Well good for you. I stopped my consumption over a year ago and have mostly recovered I would say. But you do agree it causes interference don't you? I guess I'm asking what you mean by it 'going back to normal'
  
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  - TheBlindInquisitor
    
    4 years ago
    
    How can I put it if I go for about a week or so without jacking off or watching porn my dick gets its sensitivity back and I can get hard without even touching it.
    
    I'm not sure if it's the same for other dudes but I assume it is you might have some who aren't affected at all.
    
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    - Doesnormalmatter
      
      4 years ago
      
      Oh I see. The same worked for me back when I was slowly getting off porn, I could get aroused much easier the longer I went without. Maybe not quite as to the degree of sensitivity you described, but same type of thing. Good input mate!
      
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[Old Memory]

4 years ago

Porn is where I get my motivation and challenges! Whatever they can do, I can do better and to greater extremes!

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  4 years ago
  
  Wow, haven't heard that before. Your confidence seems quite unfounded in actual research and science but if you have your mind made up, what could I care. Porn has fucked me up big time though. Also, I would suspect by your name that you are a female, in which case porn typically does not interfere as much
  
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