Please, ive never needed help so much!

My boyfriend and I fight every night. I'm very, very unhappy.
I want to break up with him. We've been together for about a year, and I've been trying to break up with him for half of that time.
Whenever I do, he blackmails me with suicide. He says he's going to kill himself. So I have to get back with him... And now, whenever I suggest it, his heart spazzes out. (He's got heart problems)

Please! I need advice. I can't take this anymore...

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Comments ( 33 )
  • Darkoil

    Break up with him and let the stupid twat kill himself.

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  • honeybeee

    He is faking just Break up he'll be fine okay bubs

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  • He won't do it, it's just a weak lame excuse to keep you by his side. I know a few guys who said that to girls they were dating and those guys are still breathing today. If he does do it, well it's a problem that's gone for good. You really don't need that shit from anyone. Leave him, be happy, don't let his words control you. It's your life not his.

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  • My ex boyfriend of three years and i would fight constantly so i tried to dump his ass on many occasion, and he would threaten the same thing. I finally got tired of his bs so i finally broke it off, guess what? Didnt even try. He was just saying that to keep me apparently.
    And you're bf is probably milking his heart problems for all it's worth to make you feel sorry for him. Just leave the sorry fuck if he offs himself society would just be rid of one more self-centered mancunt.

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  • pixie_dust

    when he threatens suicide depending on ur state, but most likely (check ur local laws) you can call 911 and an ambulance or cop will take him to a mental ward and he will be forced to stay in there until hes not a danger to himself or anyone else.

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  • benkay96

    Kill him or suffer with him

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  • Ldizzy1234

    He's trying to control you through intimidation, to make you believe that without you he's gonna do something rash, but in reality he probably isn't. My suggestion for him would be counseling. Normally, you see that kind of behavior in people who have mental illnesses. He's depending on you for his happiness. It kind of reminds me of those compulsive rituals people do when they're mentally disturbed. They think if they don't do the ritual the outcome is gonna be different/worse. My suggestion for you would be to just go on with your life. He can't hold you down. He can't use you. He has a problem. You need to tell him he should get help.

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  • i agree with not calling his bluff, you have to hand this over to someone else. i have a friend who this same type of thing happened to and it didnt end well. try and get him to go to a psych unit or counselling, handball it to someone. good luck

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  • Don't call his bluff D= Take him to a doctor or something and get him fixed

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  • Brynne

    If he threatens suicide, call 911, 999, or whatever is the emergency number in your country. If you are in the USA, in many states it is a crime not to report a suicide threat. If he is faking it, he will discover soon enough that this isn't something worth faking.

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  • Talk to a councillor!

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  • Short&2thepoint

    I honestly believe it's bullshit that you should have to deal with it, but if you're concerned, ^

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  • Short&2thepoint

    Yeah... Call the cops and tell em about your situation- There's a suicide hotline. Contact it.

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  • Raloki

    If it truly is that serious you should consider talking to your parents about it, as well has his parents, as it sounds serious.
    He is emotionally blackmailing you to remain in the relationship with you, and as it is making you unhappy it will eventually take it's toll.
    Seek help and advice, sooner rather than later, for both of your sakes.

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  • lemonlime37

    Break up and let him deal with it. It's not your fault he has issues and it's not your job to keep taking care of him when it's causing you even more pain. Even if he isn't bluffing and he actually has the balls to off himself it would never be your fault.

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  • Tisgranum

    Break up with him and he does what he does. You have to think of yourself first. After all, if he really kills himself over this he didn't really want to live anyway now did he?

    I hate fucking idiots who play the "I will kill myself" part. It's emotional whatchamightacallit. I'd buy him a knife set as a parting gift; fucking idiot.

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  • Psychohcysp

    Break up with him... I bet you he's too pussy to pussy to actually kill himself -_-
    once you show him you don't care, he will let go..... Hopefully

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  • Thanks for all of the advice... I broke up with him.
    Sorta. We're on a "break"
    But I plan on just getting him to let go a bit and not get back together with him. Hopefully, this'll make for less pain for everyone. :/

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  • Inspector019

    If someone is going to off themselves, then they will do so whether you stay or go. You need to do what is best for you. Then he can decide what to do about himself. It isn't your fault if someone chooses to off themselves. Don't let that hold you prisoner.

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  • Faceless

    Black mailed with suicide? That sucks.

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  • deb

    He is bluffing.

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  • Pisslan616

    Fuck him he's an asshole. If he wants to kill himself, let him.

    Ok if It bothers you then call the authorities on him. Explain the situation to them. Explain that yr bf may be suicidal.

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  • mini_97

    Call the cops

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  • I don't understand stuff like this.. Why do people care this much about others...? Fuck him.

    Jut go on with your life. Damn

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  • emilydoll

    If he'd kill himself if you broke it off he'sdefubately not worth being with he isn't even worth his own self.

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  • emilydoll

    WTF is he old or something?! Why does his heart spaz out he might just be full of shit like when lies just break up with him he needs to get over it. You don't have to bs with him
    Out of pity or fear that's sick.

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  • ygrowup

    The best way out of this relationship is to find him a replacement for you! If you know someone that might be interested, encourage it along, then make your move! Good luck with your choices!

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  • emms1981

    you can's stay with him, try and talk to a family member of his and tell them what is happening, you can not be black mailed into staying with someone, if he does try and top him self it is NOT your fault, people who feel this way will do it anyway. My b.i.l tried to kill himself because hes a self centred prick and thinks of nobody but himself.

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  • Before braking up with him, you need to get him a psychiatrist, I don't tihnk he really wants to kill himself, he's using that to manipulate you. Why are you with him if you don't want to be with him? That's why you're unhappy. Your life should'nt depend on him. You need to talk to his mother or a close relative and let them know that you don't want to be with him anymore and that he has been threating you with suicide so they can keep an eye on him. Obviously you don't want him to kill himself, but you never know.

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    • Vetterman

      Great wisdom here, let his parents, a teacher, or someone know. Dont let him blackmail you. You may even want to let the local authorities know, in California, he will get 72 hours of obversation by a psychologist, PLENTY of counseling, and the help he needs if he is real about it, and if not, he wont want anything to do with you, problem solved! :)

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  • seeking

    We all have had breakups and we get over it, eventually. You have to do what is best for you. If you are unhappy you have to break up with him. He needs help. If a person is going to commit suicide, they don't announce it and he probably won't have the guts to do it. A relationship like that is not healthy.

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  • petawawacouple69

    His suicide won't be your fault, he's most likely throwing the suicide bomb just to trap you and won't actually do it. But if he did then he's mentally ill and not your fault. Tell his parents that your leaving him and he's threatening to kill himself, if he's looking for attention he'll get it and be mortified at the same time.

    Trust me he'll get over you, he's just a pathetic loser that deserves to be single until he grows up.

    Don't feel like you owe it to him to stay with him or like your keeping him alive. If he's legitimately suicidal over you leaving he'll be suicidal for other stuff throughout his life

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  • hotdork

    Have a heart to heart talk or get him to break up with you..all I got for ya

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