Please help me with this ..

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Hello, i have been dating someone for 3 years and he is sober, he doesnt drink at all. I however am i social drinker, which makes this relationship almost impossible. We have nothing in common, and he cant even travel to the usa, because he has a criminal record from 20 years ago. All i do is travel, and have fun. We fight alot, but we have alot of good times too. He is very loving, and kind. But he is poor. So he can not give me what i expect. Its been 3 years, why am i hanging on.? IIN? Please give me your feedback.

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    i think you should break it off with him to give him the opportunity to find someone who will love him for him and not what he can buy for you.

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  • MyTobyBaby
    13 years ago

    It's not worth it. Let him go.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    Can't give you what you expect because he is poor?! You should be self sufficient and depend on no one. The only thing you should expect from him is love and respect.

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  • ericabeckstead
    13 years ago

    you are so right, thanks

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  • dancingqueen
    13 years ago

    i am a social drinker in a relationship with someone who never drinks but it works out for us. I always have a DD and he thinks i'm fun when i drink :) However, if you like to travel and he's broke, forget it. I know it sounds harsh but do you want to financially support him forever? I started out with a guy like that and he protested me paying for stuff at first but eventually didn't even offer to pay for stuff when he could, he'll get dependent on you. It sucks, find somebody who can enjoy the same lifestyle you do without it putting a strain on either of you. My non-drinker is not broke and even long distance things are great!

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  • one_guy
    13 years ago

    It sounds like you have your own question answered. But if it's long distance then... Is like you guys are together but not 100% nor 50% from what it seems like.

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  • ladyday
    13 years ago

    Why are you with someone you don't love? You should just break up with him, maybe you can still be good friends.

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  • big.z
    13 years ago

    Would u rather him be a poor slobbering drunk rather than a sober poor man . Sounds like he should break it off with you . But either way break it off cause it no longer sounds like your happy being in a relationship with him . And it's better to not drag things on any longer .

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  • scotty4444
    13 years ago

    Maybe you have esteem issues and are waiting for the next best thing? Would you leave him if you met Mr Right? Does loving someone else preclude financial equality?

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