Playing hard to get or just angry?

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I met a guy on Tinder and we've since met up 3 times. First time was
just a casual 5 min chat. We clicked. We then went to the cinema, and
then dinner the following week. We made out both times... I know he
really liked me ...

However, the thing is ... he hardly ever texts me first ... I message
him first every other day ... and the last time I did, his responses
were very brief, and he seemed ... well not so keen ... so I didn't
bother any more...

He wanted sex straight away. I know that. However, I made it clear to
him that it won't happen straight away ... He seemed ok with it at the
time...

So now I am not sure, if he is just playing hard to get, and expects
me to chase him, or is he just simply no longer interested because he
thinks it is taking too long for us to have sex?

Another imporant point is ... he 21 and I am 10 years older than him.

Considering his age, is he likely to even be playing hard to get...
with all those hormones???

And just to clarify, we really do get along, and can talk for hours
regardless of the age difference. And I know that sex wasn't the only
reason he wanted to meet up with me. We both have a similar and quirky
sense of humor and I know that was important to him as well as the
physical attraction.

Look forward to reading your thoughts :)

He is playing hard to get 2
He is no longer interested 20
He is angry that you are taking to long ... 7
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  • gummy_jr
    10 years ago

    "He wanted sex right away"

    Lady, I don't mean to be rude but you might want to drop that man like a hot skillet. Cause if you hold on to him you might end up with a third-degree burn.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    10 years ago

    Last time he said that he was "too crazy for me" and that it was causing him to make a fool of himself. I wonder if he is embarrassed.... Oh well

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    10 years ago

    Thank you all.

    I will just take it that he is no longer interested. He asked if we could hang out at my place after dinner that time and I said no, without giving him any indication of whether or not I will ever be ok with him coming to my place. Oh well :)

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    • gummy_jr
      10 years ago

      Good :) it's best you let him go. The last thing anyone needs is heartbreak. I can tell you I've been there too many times.

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  • disthing
    10 years ago

    You'd have to ask him.

    Some people aren't that keen on the medium of texting, some people don't want to be texted every other day because they see that as 'too needy', some people are only looking for a casual relationship and some people like to appear aloof.

    I wouldn't try to psychoanalyse his motives based on his age. Just ask him.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Hmm...No disrespect, but do you really have time for all these head games?

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    • shuggy-chan
      10 years ago

      21 year old have no idea what they want thou. so it like you said, is it worth the trouble? if so then there is your answer

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      • RoseIsabella
        10 years ago

        True that! I guess that's one of the advantages of being an older woman, I don't have the time or inclination for dealing with bullshit.

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        • shuggy-chan
          10 years ago

          ya old bat =D

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          • RoseIsabella
            10 years ago

            Mwahahaha!

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    10 years ago

    Well a week and a half later he decided to text me!

    He must have been bored or just hasn't been able to find anyone to make out with let alone have sex with!

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    I'm sure he likes you but he's 21, he needs to get laid.

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