People who don't believe in love are bad people?

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I've been in relationships, and I expected love to happen. All of my friends rant about love. But it didn't. Maybe I didn't find the right guy and maybe I won't for ten years.

I have a tendency of getting dumped because the relationships don't really have a future. When I'm with a man and do enjoy time with him, especially cuddling, and I respect him too. I don't jump straight to sex. I like relationships and I'm pretty good at being a girlfriend, but only for the short term. (3 months is my longest relationship)

Most people aren't fond of people like me. My best friend got dumped by a girl who thought like me. So are people who don't love bad people? I show respect, I don't abuse them in anyway (I've dated a rich man before), and I don't even lie to my partners.

Yes, I think they let people down 3
Yes, but they're not REALLY bad people 6
No, I don't think they're bad people at all 31
No, I'm one of those people 29
Other 6
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  • PumpkinKate
    12 years ago

    The definition of "love" is subjective, we all have our own ideas of what it is.

    Being a "bad person" is also an entirely subjective judgment.

    In the end it doesn't really matter what other people think. You enter relationships to explore a feeling of attraction. Within that relationship you have interactions that cause different emotions and feelings to arise. Those emotions and feelings influence your continuing interactions with your partner. Through that, you determine whether or not you're enjoying the experience of being in a relationship with your partner. If you aren't, and you end the relationship, hopefully you have learned more about yourself and what you want out of a relationship.

    Some people end up looking for a strong emotional draw. Some look for a more physical draw, or an intellectual one. Most of us want a little bit of everything, but favor one or the other. No single one of these types of attraction is more qualified to be called "love" than any other.

    Worry about what a relationship does for you and how it changes you (and the reciprocating effects on your partner) before you worry about whether or not it's the same "love" your friends talk about. Experience, learn, share, grow.

    Semantics aren't what's important. There isn't some sort of mystical "love" that exists already that you need to find. You'll know what "love" is when you find out how to define it yourself, and the only way to do that is by having relationships with people.

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  • Anonymouse11
    12 years ago

    I think you just don't know what love is.
    Psychological attachment is fact.

    Go for someone who you have very strong feelings for, and don't "hold out on sex".
    3 months without sex and most guys will leave you because men have needs.

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  • Gianromance
    9 years ago

    it is just not yet your time!

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  • UliNalaMansae
    12 years ago

    you never know they might have a background where their family was lacking love and never experienced it, that doesnt make them bad though.

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  • darthsomething
    12 years ago

    You're not a bad person. Wether or not you beleive in 'love' doesn't make you good or bad. I've had my fair share of relationships and after having all of them fail I've come to the desicion that I'm better off alone, happier to, and am perfectly happy with that. But that's just me. Love isn't something that just happens in the spur of the moment like you see on T.V. it takes a lot of bad relationships and learning. It will happen if you keep an open mind and want it to happen.

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  • disthing
    12 years ago

    The longest you've been with someone is 3 months. For a lot of people including me, it takes longer than that to really fall in love with someone.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I wouldn't say they're BAD people, it takes a lot to be labeled as a bad person. I just think they need to open up and let love happen, to stop trying to prevent love from occurring. I think love will happen on its own. You are not a bad person at all. Just scared i believe.

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