People who bring their kids to weddings?

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So it just occured to me, that bringing your kid(s) to a wedding might be the most selfish illogical thing to do to the bride & groom, ever. When I was a kid, I was not invited to weddings. Why? Because I was a kid, and kids are generally a hand full. I'm not one of those people who's completely grossed out by kids or something, I would very much like to have one or two of my own one day. The fact remains, kids are one hell of a responsibility and to bring your kids to someone's wedding only to have them ruin the day by crying, screaming, not being able to sit still, and being generally messy and loud, seems kind of fucking rude. I realise its a strange thing to be annoyed by, but I've recently heard of a lot of parents getting extremely offended by couples who say no kids are allowed at their wedding. Is it really such a horribly offensive thing to not want your special day ruined by a whole tribe of brats yelling and carrying on like animals? There certainly won't be any kids allowed at my wedding and whoever is too cheap to get a baby sitter for a few hours doesn't have to come. Their loss. Does anyone else think its appropriate to leave your kids at home when attending a wedding?

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    9 years ago

    What else are they suppose to do with them?. Throw them off a cliff?!.

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      THIS
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  • blacklady
    9 years ago

    i fucking hate kids little bastards smell like fucking ketchup

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    • daydreamer394
      9 years ago

      You had a bad childhood experience with barbeque sauce.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    I don't blame you. If a parent can't discipline their children or doesn't want to, they shouldn't be allowed to bring their dysfunctional parenting skills to a wedding. The kid and the bad parenting skills will become the centre of attention. It's not fair to wedding couple. Plus, if you bring your kid to a wedding, there will always be people there asking them when or if they'll ever get married.

    In families and friendships that are close, asking for a ban on children, can cause a strain on the relationship. People can get so pissed and offended.

    I was once a flower girl, when I was either in my pre-teens or my early teens. I inadvertently took away all of the bride and groom's attention, when I passed out from a mixture of a basketball session, a hot day, and nothing to drink. I wonder if they ever held it against me. I wouldn't blame them if they did.

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  • thecoolyenta
    9 years ago

    One of my ex friends years ago told me at the last minute the wedding planner thought I was too fat to wear the maid of honor dress and she went along with it. I had just had my last child . Boy did that hurt.

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  • wistfulmaiden
    9 years ago

    It depends on the bride and groom, some people actually don't mind kids especially if they have lots of them in the family, others prefer a more mature setting. People usually specify in the invitation whether or not to bring kids. Sure kids can be annoying if they cry during the service but its fun to watch them dance and eat cake and dress up.

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  • Lynxikat
    9 years ago

    I do agree that kids shouldn't be brought to a wedding. If I was ever gonna get married, I'd say no kids, period.

    But at the end of the day, it's the couple's decision whether or not they allow kids at a wedding. If that wedding cake gets knocked over by the 2-year old their cousin brought with them, they can blame the parents for letting the 2-year old knock over the cake, but THEY are ultimately the ones who allowed it to happen, because THEY were the ones who allowed parents to bring their kids.

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  • ArmusWasTheFirstTroll
    9 years ago

    Both of my parents just got remarried. Both of their wedding did not allow the guests to bring children. I thought this was normal. It's like bringing a child to a deep metaphysical film. They have no place being there and they will only degrade the experience for the rest of the audience. In a wedding it is even worse because to people are manufacturing happy memories.

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  • Parky_Parker
    9 years ago

    At my best friend's wedding, a kid almost knocked down the wedding cake. And there were at least 5 other kids there that were up to trouble. The parents didn't try to discipline the kids at all. So, I get it.

    I don't plan on having a wedding. I care more about the honeymoon. But if I did, kids would not be allowed.

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      Finally, someone who gets where I'm coming from. Its not like I'm a monster who has something against kids, I like them. At day time birthday parties, picknicks, the petting zoo, mc donalds, sure why not. At someones wedding day? A ceremony dedicated to two people commiting themselves to one another for life? No fucking thanks. I'm sure whoever's wedding it was who almost got their cake knocked over were severely pissed and probably regretted allowing kids to their wedding.

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  • shuggy-chan
    9 years ago

    So you would say no to this adorable girl?

    http://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/she-wanted-be-flower-girl-she-needed-wedding-n155631

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  • reminiscent
    9 years ago

    I would find it strange...mostly because I will wonder who the flower girl and ring bearer will be.
    I have to bring my daughter to the wedding in may ...she is tye flower girl =P

    I have never heard of a no kid wedding...and havent seen or been to one that kids destroyed.

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      As far as I'm concerned, it doesn't have to be a kid throwing flowers and it doesn't have to be a kid bringing the ring to the bride/groom. Weddings are adult functions, and I don't think kids need to be involved unless the parents are the couple being married.

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      • reminiscent
        9 years ago

        Well I guess it all depends on how traditional you want your wedding. ..but I don't think if you not going to have children you should just leave the things out... flower girls are a symbol of youth and fertility for the couple sooooo might be a bit strange to have anyone but a young child.

        Also weddings are family/friend functions.

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        • [Old Memory]
          9 years ago

          I'm traditional until I imagine 20+ screaming, crying, trouble making kids at my future wedding. Not sitting still during the ceremony, making a noise, and then not letting their parents, our family/friends sit down and relax for one second because they have to run after their child everywhere. I will also be catering for everyone and will certainly not be paying for everyone we know to have all their many kids fed, too. Weddings don't exactly come cheap. Another thing is that adults drink at weddings, and I think its incredibly irresponsible to bring your child to a function where you're not going to be coherent enough to look after them. Traditional weddings also include a priest, and I am in no way religious at all so breaking the tradition alittle to make one's special day a lot more convenient and enjoyable doesn't seem like a crime to me.

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          • reminiscent
            9 years ago

            Dear lord how many people will be at your wedding. I think tops there will be anywhere from 4-10 children (people under 16)at my moms wedding. And why is everyone at your wedding getting wasted? Adults also drink at cookouts and kids are there too. Parents might have a glass or two but they have to get home so...

            Its not a crime and honestly its the brides day so however they want to have the wedding...I just think you're picturing the inside of Chucky cheese instead of well dressed kids sitting at a kids table.

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            • [Old Memory]
              9 years ago

              I'm not literally engaged and planning a wedding here, its just something that came to mind. Obviously whoever you know has a lot less kids in their family than I do, it happens. Every single family function I go to I see kids running around screaming and throwing tantrums and its not something I want to deal with one day when I do get married. And yes, adults drink at cook outs and what not but it doesn't make it any less irresponsible. I would be ashamed of myself as a parent if I could not provide my child with a sober adult to look after them for one damn evening while I go out and enjoy myself as an adult. People who think their kids need to be glued to their hip and become everyone else's problem seriously have issues.

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  • handsignals
    9 years ago

    Wouldn't work at a Muslim wedding because it's usually a child getting married.

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    • wistfulmaiden
      9 years ago

      ick.

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  • Anonymous200
    9 years ago

    Depends on the parents and the kids. In my family, for one wedding, all the kids under ten were shuffled off to another family member's house to be babysat. For my cousin's wedding, though, everyone in the family, including kids as young as toddlers were allowed in. But rest assured, if a couple can't parent their children on YOUR day, you have every right to ask them to leave the kids at home.
    But then again, kids in my family are disciplined pretty early. Talking in church meant a warning first, and then a spanking. My relatives have taught the word "No" to their one-year-olds. And being loud or running around meant immediate removal from the premises, and then punishment.

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  • thecoolyenta
    9 years ago

    it depends on how formal it is. you should let people know in advance,repeatedly if its a big fancy country club wedding that you don't want kids there at all. You are probably going to offend people though but its better than telling them at the door after they have traveled there they can't bring their kids in.

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