People tell me that i'm pretty but don't have a boyfriend at 21?

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I am 21 and a guy has never asked for my phone number. I know plenty of other women who are asked for their number from guys.....but not me. I even feel like I take good care of myself. I am 5'6 and weigh 125 pounds. Men older than me will only call me beautiful and other women sometimes will tell me that I am pretty/beautiful/cute as well. I have been called good-looking once.

Women have asked if I have had a boyfriend before. When I say no, they ask me 'why'. I really do not know why I do not have a boyfriend because I feel like I am approachable. People often say that I am a nice girl and I do smile (although, I have my moments).

I don't go to bars and clubs. On top of that, I am not interested in online dating. The only thing I notice from men (besides from older men calling me beautiful) is that I notice them staring/looking at me. I have never had a guy come up to me to start a conversation and ask for my phone number. And as a result, I feel like it has been blow on my self-esteem because there are some women who get hit on left and right and they have no problem being in relationships. I feel like if I were really an attractive girl, guys would be all over me and they are not. I am starting to believe that I will never meet someone special.

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    7 years ago

    "Never meet someone"? Girl, you're 21. Your life is far from over. If you want a boyfriend but don't want to go out, it's time to take matters into your own hands. If you like a boy, make a move. Talking to girls is super scary for most men, but it's the 21st century and you don't have to wait for a guy to come to you.

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  • ben_doverowldrive
    7 years ago

    You must be too pretty and guys are afraid to ask you out because they are afraid of rejection and they think that you would never go out with them.

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  • JesusSavesLives
    7 years ago

    Wait until marriage honey. DO NOT SPOIL YOUR FLOWER

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  • Cocomilktitties
    7 years ago

    I commented on a similar post to this a while ago. And I will try to kind of say this in a nutshell. It's really pretty normal to feel that way even at 21. I know that everyone makes it seem like you're supposed to have had like 5+ relationships/sex partners by the time you're like 19, but that's really not the case for a lot of people... and that's not always the best thing anyways.

    I mean if you are really looking for someone, then like people said above, you might have to show some interest. Doesn't mean you have to like throw yourself at them... but maybe make some conversation or make some eye contact. Many guys especially at this age will not hesitate to take interest if they think you might be a little interested in them. BUT... I also don't think there is really any need for you to "pursue" right now. There is also nothing wrong with kind of just seeing what/who comes your way in life.

    It's normal that you feel that way... you're not alone... and I think just not focusing on it for a while will help (Easier said than done.)

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  • SirChazwick
    7 years ago

    Well this seems like a problem that is entirely your own fault. So you just sit and wait for guys to approach you and ask you out? Maybe you could try doing the unorthodox....approaching a man you find fit. If you just sit around like a stupid bimbo waiting for men to approach you and they don't, then maybe you should make a bit of effort and meet them half way. You deserve to be alone if you do not want to make any effort. If you are beautiful like you say you are than maybe a lot of guys feel intimidated by you and are afraid you are out of their league. Stop being a stupid bitch and put yourself out there. Get what you want. Otherwise just sit around trying to look pretty while waiting for guys to get your number. It obviously has not worked for you. Try something different you fucking retard.

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  • foods-dangerous-to-dogs
    7 years ago

    I used to worry about this too. But then I realized it doesnt really matter. If you like a guy, DO SOMETHING. approach him. seriously. you dont have to sit down waiting for a guy to come to you.

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  • Murun
    7 years ago

    If you bump into me, ask me for my phone number!

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    Still plenty of time. Go to where the kind of guy you would like to meet hangs out. What are your intetests?

    It could be worse you could have creepy stalkers on you all the time.

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  • TrustMeImLying
    7 years ago

    Maybe you have resting bitch face? Either way, you should initiate conversations with people. I'm not talking flirting, and not even just with guys. Just mingle a bit more. If people see you talking to someone else they are way more likely to approach you than if they saw you talking to no one ever.

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    • Dreamsao
      7 years ago

      Never underestimate resting bitch face. #awareness

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  • Midget_Farting
    7 years ago

    You intimidate the guys you seek out. Sorry, I know it sucks but that could only be the case if men aren't really bothering with you BUT you are still getting complimented for being beautiful.

    Pretty girls are often the most lonely.

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