People in ldr... do/did your parents approve (or did you not care?)

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(LDR = long distance relationship... Just in case anyone didn't know)

I know, we're all adults here, we can do what we want. But I am very close with my family as they have been my only real friends during my life (sad I know but whatever) and it's very disappointing that they don't approve of my online bf. I know they just want what's best for me. But I reeeally want to meet him for myself. I just don't want them to know about it, or else they will worry. So it's difficult to find an excuse to travel...

I told my parent(s) - they were very happy 1
I told my parent(s) - they were very disappointed 4
I told my parent(s) - they were indifferent 3
I don't talk to my parent(s) about my life 2
I normally talk to my parent(s) but didn't in this case 3
My parent(s) have met my partner and liked him/her 5
My parent(s) have met my partner and didn't like him/her 2
I don't have parents 3
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  • Arm0se
    9 years ago

    They may just think it isn't safe to date online. There are a lot of people out there who will use you with promises of love.

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  • derpyderp
    9 years ago

    My mum is extremely supportive of the situation.

    The first time I brought it up I was a bit nervous about what her response would be - a negative view wouldn't change anything but may have caused some tension - but she simply said "Well, get on a plane"

    Of course she worries about me but her main priority is that I'm happy & she can easily tell that my girl makes me the happiest I've been in a long time.

    She's been very accommodating too with the lifestyle changes that happen when you're trying to overcome a 19 hour time difference.

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    • RainbowDischarge
      9 years ago

      I like your mom. She sounds lovely.

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      • derpyderp
        9 years ago

        Most people do.
        She's a fucking gun!

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  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago

    I never really asked my parents what they thought...

    If you are concerned about how your parents feel, why don't you sit down with them and talk it over? They are probably more concerned for your safety and emotional well being more than anything else. Do some research on how to be safe about meeting someone online, and make sure you verify his identity and whatnot. This should help assuage some of their worries. Maybe you could even have your boyfriend speak with them as well.

    I wouldn't recommend traveling to meet him and not telling anyone though. Could be dangerous.

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  • charli.m
    9 years ago

    They're totally happy.

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    • charli.m
      9 years ago

      Now I have time to answer properly...

      You really should let your family know. As a back up. Meeting someone from online is always a risk, and someone should know, just in case. Particularly far away.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    My parents had their own lives to live and I certainly wasn't going to live mine for them.
    So, with or without their approval, I married the women I chose and really never asked their opinion.

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