People dont like my terminology

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If I use the wrong phrasing it creates problems. I often don't say things the right way and it aggrevates others. People often take things very literally.
Others get caught up on something when I feel like they really know what I meant but are offended that the sentence wasn't perfect. This causes issues for me because I have to think a lot before I say anything. This causes me to avoid small talk all together. I only talk when I have a topic I'm knowledgable about. I never shoot the shit with people lately.

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  • libertybell
    2 years ago

    People misunderstand me a lot. If I don't use the exact words, people get entirely the wrong meaning. It's very frustrating. But,who stops and thinks about how to word something exactly? I shouldn't have to do that.

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  • darefu
    2 years ago

    Yep, kind of normal.

    The old saying comes to mind.

    Better to remain quiet and thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.

    I have the problem of thinking faster than I talk and sentences come out all f__ed up at times. Sometimes I'm even embarrassed by it, or there is no way of explaining why I said what came out. So easier to keep my mouth shut.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      "can you" instead of "will you" is a big one

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  • olderdude-xx
    2 years ago

    I used to be the same... I do understand I was dyslectic and had negative people and social skills due to how I was raised.... It has taken me literally decades to improve on these kinds of things - and I started without any self help books on the subject (so you should go faster than I did).

    I suggest you start by reading self help books on people and other skills... and just keep working at it.

    Some starter books: "How to Win Friends & Influence People In The Digital Age" by: Dale Carnegie & Associates.

    "The Art of Dealing With People" by: Les Giblin

    "The Compound Effect: by: Darren Hardy. This last book is actually about how to be successful at anything... and it will likely improve you life as much as the books on how to talk to people.

    There are many more books available than those... But, those are some of the best starter books.

    I wish you well with this,

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