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I am able to fit a finger in my vagina but not much more. I'm a virgin and when I tried sex (I was relaxed and lubed) it just was not happening. I bought a small dildo designed for beginners to practice with, but I can not fit it in even though I used a very large amount of lube. What is with me? What can I do?
I think that you just have to be prepared to endure the pain the first time.
For me it did not fit the first time, at all. My first intercourse was painful and I had a bleeding. This is all perfectly natural in some cases.
The problem is that I can't get anything more than a finger or 2 inside. Do I have to be more forceful? I'm scared I'll damage my vagina.
You have to be more forceful unless you are just trying to put fingers into yourself without being aroused. Most women need to be horny for say ... 20 minutes or something before they would be able to fit more. You just have to try and get your body used to it, but it will only feel weird if you are not horny.
I have to add this though: There IS a possibility that there COULD be something medically wrong with you and for your own sake you should seek medical examination if none of this works.
That is what I am trying to determine-- do I just need to practise and strech my vagina a bit or do I have a medical condition? I am hoping it is the former, as I am able to insert a few fingers inside myself. Is that a good sign? Also, is it possible that the pubic bone could be obstructing entry into the vagina?
I'm sexually active and can without issues get 2-3 fingers in, three feels a lot. The vagina however is supposed to be very capable of handling more however. But if you expect pain when you insert more fingers you will have trouble because you are probably tense in this moment as well.
Could you try to describe what it feels like when you try? I don't want to say this with a 100% certainty but you will PROBABLY not injure yourself if you keep on trying. In worst case you will be a bit sore for some hours/ a day but that should be it.
Some girls have a condition where intercourse hurts (not an STD)
It is not the inside of me that hurts, it is getting anything in that is the problem. I can get fingers in there, and tampons (assuming I use lube). However, I tried my dildo (a small one) with a very, very large amount of lube-- and it just will not go past a certain point. It does not go very far in at all, I can only get the tip of the dildo in. If I keep trying, will this become easier? Surely this is not an issue that a lot of people deal with? What am I doing wrong? Is this normal or a common problem?
I'm not a doctor, but you may wish to see one as it sounds like you may have vaginismus, which results in a very tight vagina and makes vaginal intercourse uncomfortable or even painful. If that's the case, it has nothing to do with being "horny enough" or needing to "force it in".
It may sound absurd, but you may wish to experiment with anal masturbation and sex instead. It's not uncommon for women with vaginismus to be able to enjoy sex through anal since they are unable to be penetrated vaginally without pain.
I didn't experience any pain my first time, not everyone does.
I think maybe you aren't horny enough, being horny is more about your mind than your body.
Some pain with pleasure the first several times, but you make someone feel very special very soon