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If you had only two possibilities in your life, which one would you choose? Having a partner and no kids OR having kids but no partner?
| having kids but no partner - I´m female | 6 | |
| having a partner but no kids - I´m female | 35 | |
| having kids but no partner - I´m male | 5 | |
| having a partner but no kids - I´m male | 37 |
That's bloody hard...I want kids, but I believe the ideal family for them to grow up in is with two parents. However, I'm kind of checking my options for fostering/adopting as a single, seeing as it seems increasingly unlikely I'm gonna meet someone I want to spend the rest of my life with. But I still have my concerns about doing that...I'd hate to not have someone to share all then cute and fun things my kids do, or their achievements, or have someone to back me up when things are tough...blah...I dunno if I should vote haha.
Blah ok. I vote kids, no partner. The idea of getting to the end of my life without experiencing being a mum is too fucking depressing.
I vote kids, no partner.
I am married with no kids and while our bond is great, I can only imagine the bond between a Mother and her children. Partners divorce, fight, hate each other, but the bond between (most) Mothers and their children transcends all of the bullshit and drama people love to inject into their lives.
I spent most of my life hating my Mother and if she wan't my Mother, we might have never seen a time when we could be friends, which is what we are now. Somehow, just her being my Mother is worth my coming back to her and loving her. There is something to be said about the bond between creator and creation. From everything I know, having children is one of the most profound lifestyle changes one could ever experience and whether it is good or bad? Life is what you make it, I guess.
My husband may one day no longer be my husband or even my friend, but my children will always be my children, whether they like it or not ;)
Unless they cut you out of their life. It happens. I've not spoken to my dad in years, and have no intention of starting back up. Just know, just because you breed doesn't automatically mean your kids will keep a relationship with you. Granted it probably wouldn't happen if you raised them right, but...you know, just saying. It happens.
Then again, my dad is an adoptive parent. I guess that wouldn't matter to a breeder though.
I completely understand your point and that is a risk that one would have to be willing to take but understand that to cut one's parent completely out of one's life isn't something that most kids do.
Preferably no partner, no kids. I'm done with dating and relationships. I'm a terribly irritable and easily-angered individual, and wouldn't want to be bothered by someone needing me for some shit. I just can't do it. I don't like being wanted or needed by people.
Weird, my friend asked me the same question some days ago in rl. I said kids. I love kids. I wanna have kids.
I also wanna have a hubby but....I don't know. My kids will always be my kids, like NeuroNeptuanian says!! :/
Why would I want the responsibility of raising kids without the help of a partner to take care of them?
Anyways, nah, no kids for this gal. But considering I don't want to live in a house all by myself one day, I'll wouldn't mind having a hubby.