Parents: if you could do it over, would you still have children?
| Yes | 18 | |
| No | 12 | |
| I'm not a parent | 50 |
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dinz
No doubt I would do it again. Honestly my little bundle of joys has opened my eyes to alot of things I would never experience if it wasn't for my little man.
Since I separated from my son's Mother, I have thought about it and I still won't hesitate to have him come in the world. Me and his Mother have the strong belief that we must make the best of the situation for our little boy though I do feel guilty at times for bringing him into such a situation.
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[Old Memory]
I was 27.
Nine months worth of trips to the doctor, watching her belly grow; elated with the identification of his elbows and knees moving as he rolled around inside her.
We bickered about names, interjecting with sweet-talk and loving words.
I sang to him in her belly. I read books and wiggled her extended abdomen around, looking forward to the day that I could interact with this alien inside my wife.After 36 hours of holding my wife's hand as she crushed it, listening to her scream in pain...
We were overwhelmed with exhaustion, and both of us were nervous wrecks. I watched as the doctor pulled this bloody, slimy mass from her loins. It didn't look human, and good God...I'd watched too many horror movies.
The doctor made me cut the chord. Even though I was already queasy from the onslaught of pain, blood, and exhaustion, I resisted...but complied.
His cries sounded like a quiet, subdued little sheep baying as the doctor handed him to me.
...when I said his name...he turned his head, made eye contact and quit crying. I held him to my chest and cried.
No experience in my 45 years on this planet...could compare to that.
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charli.m
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He's a freshman in college now. I miss him. Every time he comes home on the weekends, it feels like our home's intact again...then he leaves and I remember him when he was a toddler...obsessed with playing ball with me.
Haha...the cycle of life is a confusing, beautiful, painful, but rewarding experience.
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ifonlyuknew247
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myboyfriendsbitch
I didn't want to become a parent when i did, but i couldn't imagine my life without my daughter. Now that i know her there is no way i could choose to live without her, even though some things would be so so so much easier.
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Tommythecat.
Neither did I, I really regret not knowing my child. I think my abscence needs to change at some point, I kind of owe it. I need to take some responsibility and care for my child. I've never had a strong parenting urge, but I feel things changing.
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myboyfriendsbitch
I never would have guessed you had a child. How old is he/she? The older that child gets without knowing you, the more resentment they will have built up toward you, so don't waste time. After a certain point they won't care whether they know you or not. Actually, they will care deep down and it will affect them every day, but they'll damn sure act like they don't.
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Tommythecat.
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[Old Memory]
Absolutely.
Being a parent is the most frustrating, underappreciated, exhausting job in the world.
...but roads less traveled lead to higher destinations.
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linchpin
No. It's rewarding, but for selfish reasons. Plus its really stressful. And I feel I've contributed to overpopulation.
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my son has autism that was caused by a vaccine and my daughter has borderline personality disorder caused by me and her dad..both my kids suffer just like I do...and I never wished that ever upon any kid..so I wish I was never born so that way they would not be here either
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RunoftheMill
To each his or her own. But really, I did not want kids ever. And I had my first without plan. Now, after almost 2 decades of raising my 3 kids, I love being a dad. Just love the challenge and feelings of having kids. If my wife would have let me, I would have had another few. But again, to each his or her own. Most fulfilling thing in my entire life. And I have written and produced albums, taught many years of classes, made my own beer, grown mary jane, played sports and many more things. Raising kids is more challenging and more rewarding.
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