Parents don’t approve of us

so after my parents found out my bf got arrested from domestic violence, they’ve made it clear that they don’t want us to be together. my sister even said “i’ll not talk to you if you get back with him”

i get where their coming from, but i love him and he loves me. what happened that night honestly wasn’t even bad, and i felt as if i exaggerated. we want to be together but he thinks it’s best if he spend some time apart and work on ourselves because our relationship before wasn’t healthy. isn’t that a mature thing for my bf to say?
i guess today i found out that the charges against my bf won’t be charged. which is good. means he won’t go to jail and won’t be on probation. so we can still see each other. it just sucks though because most of my family knows about this and my friends don’t approve or like him. but i really want to be with him. we’re both going to therapy, separately of course. but do you think as time goes on we can go back to how things were? he didn’t mean what he did, i know it. and honestly if i just would’ve left like he said i had to, it wouldn’t of happened! i was being a stubborn bitch. and i know it’s not excuse for a man to hit a women, but like i don’t really care? he’s so scared about going to jail i know he wouldn’t do it again. that’s why he wanted me to go home in the first place, he didn’t want the cops to be called. but they said bc of our yelling. and i’m the stupid bitch who texted their sister about it, who told their mom. ugh. shouldn’t of even told the cops he did it. idk why i did! i was just mad and sad. any advice on how to get my family’s approval again? do you think it’s doomed forever? we really really do love each other. and he only wants the best for me. he’s never done anything like it before