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I feel stupid and regretful most of the time. Every time my boyfriend and I got in to an argument, I'm always the one who come back to him and tell him I'm sorry even though clearly its not my fault! Is it normal? How come guys can just act nothing ever happened and always expect girls to know its always their fault???
This kind of thing doesn't discriminate against sex. It's the same with women too. It just depends on what your role in the relationship is.
If you feel like you're right in a situation and there's yelling or snapping involved, take a step back, breathe a minute, and calmly approach it. Don't just cave, but instead give him a reason to hear you out and admit that he may be wrong.
Obviously he doesn't need to apologize because you, regardless of wether he was wrong or not, will always break down first. Like another poster said, you may be just as wrong as he is, but you may not. If he's being pretty heinous and you keep on giving in like this, it can ingrain this dynamic into your relationship, enabling him and making you permaently subservient. Being the first to initiate peace and reconciliation is a good thing but don't do so by accepting blame that you don't believe is yours, it will just make you bitter and resentful.
This is normal, it shows that you are more mature than he is. You realize that you're better off keeping the relationship together than perpetuating an argument that is probably silly and unimportant in the first place.
Most guys think that it's the woman's fault; most girls think that it's the man's fault. Chances are that it's a misunderstanding stemming from basic differences between men and women. There's no reason to feel stupid, though.