Other peoples children and their parents annoy me?

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I'm 19, don't have children yet but really want some day. I like babies, I think they're cute and I love well mannered kids who behave and talk politely. I also really being around kids I know, like kids that are part of mine or my boyfriend's family but GOOD GOD, most kids that are strangers to me make me feel like a monster because I get this burning hatred when I see them running around the supermarket or the side walks or wherever else. When I see screaming children in public, I feel like smashing their parents' faces in for not doing something about it. I find myself thinking "hello? Your brat is busy screaming his head off, could you please control that little devil?", and its strange because I like children in general and have a desire to raise them one day. Its just the very ill mannered and hyper active ones I guess, and the ones that get spoiled rotten and expect to get everything they want and won't shut up in someone else's house. Does anyone else feel this way towards strangers' kids but not their own or family members' kids?

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  • howaminotmyself
    9 years ago

    You need to realize that you are only seeing a moment of that child/parent relationship. And the parent not giving into the public tantrum is far better than the one giving in to the demands of a toddler. But even if they do give in, you have no idea how frequent that behavior is or what else is going on.

    Don't be so quick to judge parenting.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    Children who have good manners should be cherished. I don't like the ones that are loud and presumably spoiled. I've seen children throw terribly loud and long fits in the stores. Horrible, absolutely horrible. The parents usually would do nothing. Have parents stopped using binkies or stopped teaching their children altogether?

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  • Parky_Parker
    9 years ago

    I never had the desire to have kids. However, I don't mind other people's kids if they behave decently.

    But, I definitely understand where you're coming from. Kids that run wild and cause damage to only be further encouraged by their parents because they're "aww so cute," is extremely annoying. If you know your kids won't behave when you go out somewhere, get a babysitter. If your child destroys something at your friend's house, reimburse them. I assume parenting is a difficult job, but parents still need to take responsibility for their kids' actions and raise them as best as they possibly can.

    I was at a fancy restaurant with a small group of people for a celebration in honor of a close friend's accomplishment. There was a couple with three children(ages 4-6) nearby. They were screaming, banging on the table, and shoving each other off the chairs. I've never seen kids acting like that before in a restaurant. Luckily, we noticed this before our drinks arrived. I asked the hostess to move us to another table because the noise was too distracting. We had to wait in the lobby for about 20 minutes before we were seated again. I was pretty surprised that the restaurant tolerated that kind of behavior.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Too many parents today do not have the time, attention span or the patience to properly raise their own children, so they spoil them, let them run amuck or just hand them over to the educational system and after school care, to raise.
    That leaves all of us to suffer when their nasty, unruly brats invade our space. Shame on parents who have children they never had any intention of raising.

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  • Negima93
    9 years ago

    I think this is normal, but I hate almost all the children I meet.

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  • Crμsades
    9 years ago

    This is because educated, financially stable people with careers choose not to have kids anymore, being too focused on themselves, leaving uneducated, trailer trash losers to do the job for them.Most kids these days are born within lower education, lower income families from the suburbs and rural areas. Kids are growing up being neglected by overworked parents with a shitty 8 dollar/h jobs, being left by themselves until the parents get home with a cranky foul mood that makes them intolerable. Also a big problem is that too many children are raised by single mothers who are obviously unfit,too immature, young to properly do the chore. Most of them probably have children only to screw the guys they had the kid with over, to get the child support money they later spend on anything BUT the child.
    Kids are a huge responsibility and it is our duty to raise them in a decent healthy environment. Children are the future. We will help not only the next generation, but ultimately ourselves by creating civilized respectable people to replace us, making our lives easier. I think none of us will want to experience shitty behavior and disrespect from the younger crowd, when we are older, senior citizens. And if that will happen, we will have only ourselves to blame for not investing in the education of the next generation and providing them with the necessary knowledge. Every generation inherits the older generation. And if it doesn't, then it most likely won't be grateful for anything, and that will reflect in their behavior.

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    • DumBelle
      9 years ago

      My goodness, you are so delusional and contradicting.

      People who are "educated, stable and "selfish" do not refrain from having children, because they are invested in themselves, people having children (as well as their reasons) are incredibly relative and differ in every area. Suburban children are not the same as "trailer park" children. As the suburbs are a term pertaining to middle and upper class households and sub-developments, not impoverished/low income households.

      I reside in the richest county in the US; the financially stable and educated people are the majority (if not "only") people who do have children -- having the proper means and time to invest in raising their children, their intentions are to do it the "right" way. It's definitely not always the case, here there are more fathers out of work and the wives are working more and their main source of income, leaving fathers as the house husbands and "raise" the children, the majority of their day. Aside weekends, of course. What do they do? In the richest county in the US? Here, they are notorious (for 'neglect' and choosing to find their own distraction, while their wives are at work) Does beating off, cheating and ignoring your child "for their downtime" on the computer and incessant lawn work to keep up with the Jonesess sound like neglect? Or a selfish FATHER. "Here" is where the "Dad who went bankrupt" and didn't want his family to live without him, or be taken care of - by another man - murdered them all (himself, included) This is one of many cases, in this area/coast. The men believe they "own" their children, here and will kill to prove it. Get a tattoo, you are on your own (because they "love" them so much?)

      You constantly whine about child-support and absent mothers, as if so scored by women or your mother; you cannot see anything wrong with your opinion; just projection, most likely your own experiences blowing off the handle, online. Now I did the same thing, with men, sounds just as stupid to generalize, but here it is fact..
      unfortunately.

      You're definitely not a person whom a child should look up to, or see as the golden opinion of how/who should raise children. "Dad, what did you do today? Troll websites and call everybody "homo"...?" God forbid you have a gay child, they'll be doomed to the so-called "irresponsible" form of being raised and ridiculed/verbally abused, to the point of insanity and unstable behavior. Guess what? They'd turn out just like you, because you "turned out" and appear like a product of "bad parenting" or evidently, no guidance whatsoever. Fend for yourself, a lot? Or ignored. Either way, you are the last person someone should listen to, regarding children and how they are "raised", as if you really know.

      I was raised in rural America, although I was middle-class (while the larger majority being lower) The people I know from home were always "good kids", who were loved and taken care of, even being without name brand clothing, "new" cars and attending the best schools this country has to offer. Everyone worked hard to buy their "own" things in life, they appreciate. Where I am now, I live like the "upper class suburban" yuppy, because I choose to take my career where it is as prosperous as possible. Everyone here has things given to them and are delusional as to how the world works, outside of rich counties, "You mean kids paid for their own car? People actually try to attain scholarships to get into the school my parents paid in full, for?" On top of being incredibly neglected, by their hard-working parents. Their intentions [parents] can be good. Ultimately, they produce contributing members of society, just as rural America can and does. Rural families, who have to work, do not "by default" have uneducated and shitty methods, raising their children. Everything is relative and a "person" from any walk of life can be prone to mental illness, or simply the inability to properly express love/affection and sufficient care for a child, it has nothing to do with a state, rich or poor, it's nature vs nurture and the parents themselves, as people. This making it person to person, not strictly one parent (gender-bias, on your end) because you pay child support or lacked parents being... Well, present.

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    • dirtybirdy
      9 years ago

      Well gee whiz, Sadey-poo, i hate agreeing with you.

      ...but who raised you then?

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  • ihateallmyclothes
    9 years ago

    Kids annoy me so much with the way they are always complaining about the most trivial things, as if their lives are sooo hard, when they're not old enough to have any real problems, yet they are crying ALL THE TIME and being so ungrateful. I understand that they can't comprehend that the fact that the world doesn't revolve around them because they are so young, and also that similar things could be said for people living in first world countries, but it still pisses me off and I can't help that.

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  • kelili
    9 years ago

    I know exactly how you feel. My boyfriend's little cousins are so ill-mannered that it makes me sick. One day I even told one of the parent that her daughter had no manners. I don't think it was the right thing to do though.

    Someone has said that it's always those who have no child who know how to raise them. I think that some parents really don't know how to teach their children manners.

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  • wistfulmaiden
    9 years ago

    I pretty much hated kids until I met a few decent, witty children when I was 22. They made me realize that not all kids are like Verruca Salt...but even now after having my own kid, other peoples kids still annoy me. I think its perfectly norml there re a lot of intolerable little brats out there with crappy parents.

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