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What is your attitude to handjobs (manual stimulation of a penis by female hands)? How do you perceive this activity?
| HJ is only a help to awake the penis to erection | 5 | |
| HJ is a good way to finish the guy after sex | 2 | |
| HJ is a good part of foreplay | 16 | |
| HJ is just for teenagers / boring for me | 4 | |
| HJ is one of the most sexually exciting acts in itself | 14 | |
| HJ is just the last resort when nothing more can happen | 0 | |
| HJ is not sex at all | 1 | |
| HJ is gross / I hate it | 3 |
uhm. Where's an option to say it's a fun way of manual sexual stimulation?
I only see options that place is as foreplay, boring, or the most sexually exciting act known to mankind.
It's fun giving them, but i prefer the full programme. Kinda the same as with blowjobs.
Clarification of my unclear language: "...or the most sexually exciting act known to mankind." In fact, the option is ONE OF the most exciting sex.ACTS. By this option I did not mean "known to mankind" but subjectively "to me personally". By "in itself" I meant something like "handjobs can be considered not just as a means to something else, but they are very exciting to me as an activity which could be also considered full programme". Hopefully, the way I put the option did not mislead you in your vote, because as you say "I prefer the full programme", so this option is out of the question anyway.
Yes, I am sorry that I did not include all the possible options. It often happens that voters "are forced" to choose the option which is the closest to their attitude even if it does not fit exactly. So I apologize for forcing people into this:))) But it should be "safe, sane, consensual" way of forcing someone into picking the closest option:)))
well, it did.
I shy'd away from the option and rather choose "good part of foreplay".
It is a sexual act by itself, and especially in nasty situations(e.g. in a public transport/bus) can be very intense, but only from time to time.
The way you worded "one of the most exciting acts in itself" just didn't seem right.
It's great from time to time, in the right place, at the right time, and by itself, until the finish.
But most of the time, it's just part of a more wholesome programme. Your wording for the "by itself" option sounded too enthusiastic for my taste, as in, i would do that every time if it was up to me. Simply not true, i will do that and enjoy it, and the next 20 times, i want to have actual intercourse or do blowjobs until the time and place are right again for a handjob. Know what i mean?
Yes, it makes perfect sense. And if I understand you well (which I hope is the case) then if I were you, I would choose the option "good part of foreplay" too, it is the closest one.
"One of the most excititing etc" is really different, in fact this would be my personal choice but for me it is completely different because I have a sexual obsession with handjobs and female hands in general, I do not like putting labels on me but if I had to label my sexuality, "hand fetishism" in its strict sense would be the closest label for me. So our different preferences (mine and yours) should be reflected in choosing different options in this poll, which is what really happened, and it is good.
Thanks for voting and for your thoughts, I can fully agree with you.
you're welcome.
And sorry for saying this again, but i still think a "normal sexual option by itself" option would be nice. Its good and fine we 2 would choose different elements, but "good part of foreplay" to me seems "too little". Thats what i was trying to say with the first post...that you have plenty of other options, but basically none to say it CAN be an interesting act by itself from time to time. I think it would be a popular choice, so i understand if you omit it on purpose, but it does feel the option may simply be lacking.
Ok, but this "from time to time" is the crucial element for me.
Look at it this way: If option X fits you in 1 in 20 cases and option Y fits you in 19 in 20 cases, which option should you choose? 5 % accurate or 95 % acurate? Not a big harm was done by choosing the option you chose, in my humble opinion. (your words: "i will do that and enjoy it, and the next 20 times, i want to have actual intercourse or do blowjobs until the time and place are right again for a handjob")
But I agree that the options I offered are far from being perfect.
Nice as part of a blowjob or to keep me hard whilst I'm doing something for her. That's it though. I can give myself a better handjob than anybody else :P
Pointless I can give myself a damn handy J or as it is also known an old fashioned.
I actually find giving myself a HJ somewhat boring and predictable. Having a partner do it adds an element of mystery that solo efforts lack. I like 'em, whether it be just a HJ or as a part of more diverse activity. It's true,, variety is the spice of life.
Giving them is fun. I can count with one hand how many times I've done it, but the times I did it was a lot of fun.