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So here's the thing. I met this girl a while ago, and over the course of several months gradually started getting to know her better. I only ever wanted to be her friend (I think...). But about a month ago I started feeling absolutely overpowering feelings toward this girl. I don't know how it happened. They were (and are) such strong feelings that I felt that in order for me to be having them in the first place then she must be reciprocating some of that energy, otherwise I wouldn't feel this way. Can chemistry only go in one direction sometimes, or do you think chemistry only exists between two people? Can someone feel such a strong rush from being with another person while that other person feels nothing, or is there some kind of energetic interplay at work between the two people? Things aren't working out to my advantage with the girl, but it seems like it's because of more complicated reasons than just zero attraction on her end. It's weird. Thoughts on the subject are much obliged.

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Tealights

8 years ago

You're just infatuated.

Chemistry (mainly your neurochemicals) does play a huge part in this, but it's not contagious. So it's very possible for you to feel all that you do and the other person feels nothing. However, if she's an observant person, she could probably notice you like her based on your body language, change in attitude, voice, etc, because infatuations are usually overwhelming and hard to hide.

If you're willing to take a chance, then confess your feelings and see how she feels about you.

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  8 years ago
  
  Oh, she already knows how I feel about her. It became impossible for me to hide it. I feel like I got a lot more positive signals than negative over the last month. She's in a relationship. Do you suppose if I try to keep cool and be her friend (which she said she wants) that I could eventually end up with her?
  
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  - Tealights
    
    8 years ago
    
    No.
    
    Women aren't as simple as that.
    
    I can tell you now that keeping cool is meant to keep the friendship alive. She's not going to leave her boyfriend for you, because it would have happened a lot sooner, especially if you two been friends for a long time.
    
    Your only option is to respect her wishes and move on.
    
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    - NeuroNeptunian
      
      8 years ago
      
      This.
      
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    8 years ago
    
    Don't count on it. I'm not trying to make you feel bad, I just want you to be aware that it's possible that she may never return your affections. So if you choose to remain just friends with her try not to carry that torch too much. There's a good chance you'll just end up getting hurt but then again I could be wrong. You never know.
    
    Hope the best, and expect the worst. Whatever you do don't put the moves on her.
    
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NeuroNeptunian

8 years ago

Eh, it happens. Unfortunately, it is not always reciprocated. Even if it is, I'd keep a distance. She has a boyfriend, that's a mound of shit that you do not want to find YOUR foot in.

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KingTermite

8 years ago

Why did you bother asking the question if you were going to bitch about anyone's answer that doesn't fit the outcome you want? You can be delusional all you like but asking the rest of us to take the journey with you is unrealistic.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  I only bitched about gypsysailor's comment. He comes onto my threads and posts the most assholish, offensive nonsense, and he does it to everyone else too. I don't care for it. Who else got some big objection from me?
  
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Terence_the_viking

8 years ago

Chemistry good.

Explosion bad.

Careful what you mixing you shlag.

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thegypsysailor

8 years ago

What are you doing crushing on someone in a relationship? That's just plain uncool, dude.
Go find your own girl. Anyway, she's obviously just messing with you, or you are reading way too much into all this, if she's already got a guy.

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  8 years ago
  
  No wonder no one likes you. You come up with these knee jerk assholish comments without actually thinking about what the other person wrote. Didn't you read any of the above? It's an undeniable, overwhelming sensation.
  
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  - thegypsysailor
    
    8 years ago
    
    It's an undeniable, overwhelming sensation of horniness, nothing more. You are a selfish, immature child.
    She is someone else's girl. Anyway, if she left him for you, she would leave you for the next asshole in line.
    You should just go find your own girl and not be a selfish pig and fuck up what could be a wonderful life for her.
    If you REALLY cared for HER, you'd be happy for her that she is happy, not trying to figure out how to get her to be yours!
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      8 years ago
      
      That's putting a whole lot of words in my mouth that I never said and depictions of me that aren't in the least true. You really are a piece of shit aren't you? Go drown yourself in a fucking mud puddle you spastic cunt.
      
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      - thegypsysailor
        
        8 years ago
        
        You want to steal some guy's girl and I'M a piece of shit? That is funny.
        
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        8 years ago
        
        Quality women go from boyfriend to better boyfriend to better boyfriend. They don't become single. I'm not going to apply the bro code to some stranger that I don't know.
        
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