Only wanting what i cannot have

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I have this problem, and it is quite annoying for me. Basically... It is impossible for me to be in a relationship with anyone. More specifically: It is impossible for me to stay interested in a person long enough to get into a healthy relationship.
I can pursue someone for months, but as soon as they return my affections, I lose interest. It's no longer a challenge and therefore it loses its appeal. I only go for the biggest challenges, people that I do not believe I can have. IE: My step-brother, who eventually ended up falling for me and that made things awkward because I no longer want him.
It's so frustrating!
I just want to know... Am I abnormal? Does anyone else have this problem?

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  • cherrytree
    7 years ago

    It's normal, happens to me all the time, It's just that we all always want things that we can't seem to have.
    Blond people want to have brown hair.
    White people want to be darker, darker people want to be lighter, people with brown eyes want blue eyes, those with blue eyes want green eyes and so on ... but It's better to focus on what you have and to make the best out of it :)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Mm... Never thought about it like that. Grass is always greener, yeah?

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      • cherrytree
        7 years ago

        Just live life to the fullest, the things that we really CAN'T change, we should leave behind and focus on what we can change :)

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    You are the female equivalent of the guy who loses interest after he has sex with a girl. You have a particularly bad desire for commitment, the more elusive and more difficult the more attractive.

    That's a recipe for being in an abusive relationship, or hitting the Wall and being alone at 40.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Nowhere did I state I was having sex with anyone. I do not sleep with people I don't have genuine feelings for, which means I have not slept with anyone yet as I cannot stay interested in a person long enough to fall in love with them.

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  • MrsEdGein
    7 years ago

    I'm 43 and have never been in a relationship either because when a guy does show interest and talks to me I always tense up (because of my anxiety and shyness) and head for the nearest exit. Because I'm that way I have avoided several chances at relationships. It's something I really hate about myself. It's also embarrassing because being constantly single people like family members might think I I'm gay which I'm not. I was born single it's highly obvious I'm going to die single. I want to run and crawl under a rock because it's so embarrassing. Being unattractive makes life suck bad. I hate my loveless and sexless life.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Mmh... Being married to a serial killer can really murder one's social life, I reckon. But hey, he probably wants you for your body so you can't be that unattractive, yeah?

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  • yesnomaybeso
    7 years ago

    It used to happen to me, for years, turns out I just hadn't found the right person.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      See, this is what people keep telling me. "You just need to find the right person."
      But what if there is no right person for me? What if some people aren't meant to be in relationships? Sometimes I think it would be easier to just play the field until I get bored and then just get a cat or something.

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      • yesnomaybeso
        7 years ago

        I used to think the same! Believe me! I was like even if there's the right person for me, I won't meet them. I have a routine and I don't meet that many new people that often. But it happened, when I was expecting it the least! So don't give up! Becaus I was exactly the same! I felt too old and I was sure it wouldn't happen to me

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